Julie Bowen recently shared her experiences of parenting teenage boys during an appearance on today with Hoda and Jenna the Modern Family star who is a mother to Oliver 17 and twins John and Gustav 15 opened up about the challenges of raising teens and the efforts she makes to address important topics Bowen revealed that she has placed informational books about sex drugs and safe practices around the house to facilitate conversations with her sons despite her attempts to engage in these crucial discussions she finds it difficult to connect with them I'm basically in the desert right now she said likening her situation to being ignored by three people she deeply cares about it's like I got dumped by three guys that I was madly in love with and I'm like hey I'm right in the kitchen and they never show up she humorously compared her current struggles to her High School experiences feeling as desperate now as she did back then when she had a crush on a boy it's me Mom I birthed you she said reflecting on her frustration they don't care Bowen's candid remarks highlight the often unseen difficulties of parenting teenagers and the emotional distance that can develop during these formative years