what's one thing that you think that you've learned that maybe today there's a line you're not going to cross and this is the way the ship sailing kind of like in the city scker is like the secret to life is that one thing you got to figure it out yourself whatever it is is creating that boundary for yourself this is what's most important to me I'm going to make it to all the lacrosse games I'm going to coach the team I'm going to take a trip with my partner there's things that just have to be done and you realize nothing's going to go away like the practice will still be here you know 15 years ago was of the mentality where I can't not be here for a 4-day weekend like they'll stop calling me but you realize that that doesn't happen your patient base is strong and loyal Life Will Go On you can do what you need to do for your time took me a long time to to realize I can take a weak vacation and have a whole week off and it felt really hard at first and then you're back on that Monday morning and within 5 minutes it feels like you never left [Music]