so what happens is you take the wonderful families and they come in and we're in Washington they said would it be possible sir would it be at all possible for you to come because we're celebrating our child's life and we had a ceremony we had the changing of the garden know we had a beautiful ceremony and then they said sir could you come to the graves could you come to the Graves after the ceremony they said could you come to the graves would that be possible I said I will we're there and they said a prayer different Graves one here one there then they said to me mean I'm not surprised I never even thought about Sir would it be possible for you to have a picture with us I said absolutely I wasn't doing it for I don't need publicity I get a lot of publicity so I was taking pictures at the grave one with the sister and then the mother and then the father come in and then another group at a different grave and and it was so beautiful and we left and everything was nice and then later on that day I heard that we were using the graves of those soldiers for public relations purposes you know and that was all put out by the white house uh just to finish this I love those people I'm so happy they took pictures of me and them and the tombstone and their lovely son or daughter