Tully Kearney MBE - Forced Social Interaction

Published: Mar 06, 2023 Duration: 00:02:49 Category: Nonprofits & Activism

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[Music] And then there were things like, we had  like um team building activities... but   when you swim at a national centre,  when there's less than ten of you,   um that's obviously quite difficult. If there's  one like - especially if there's people that   you don't get on with - there's one athlete  that's been bullying me for quite a few years   um... and just knows how to wind me up,  to the point where I can't cope anymore,   and then obviously I ended up having to go at  this athlete and then it looks bad on me! And   it's just - obviously it's frustrating,  so I'd rather avoid those situations   um... [Caragh] Why are they doing that? [Tully]  I think, I think they want the team spirit,   and I think they think that it's the way of  getting that... but obviously because they didn't   know I was Autistic, they didn't realize how  detrimental to my mental health that's been - and   it has - that was one of the biggest things for  years. I had so much anxiety... like sometimes   um - there was this one occasion like that they  wanted us to go to one of the swimming flats,   and I just wasn't comfortable, but they kept  pushing and pushing and pushing and saying "no   you need to go", and I was like "well I don't feel  comfortable going", um and I ended up sitting - I   got to outside the swimmers flats, um and the  athletes - um obviously I had to wait for them   to get home - just walked past me and ignored  me... and I don't wanna be there anyway, so I   literally was sat in a really bad like rainstorm  - typical Manchester, like chucking it down - like   literally just really anxious and crying...  just sat in the street, like for hours. Um and   I was just... that was kind of one of the turning  points- I was like "I can't be doing that again",   um and I kind of became a bit more stern then -  that if someone's like "oh you need to go and do   this forced social interaction", I was like "no".  But it's one of those which you're worried like...   when it's, when you swim - especially when you  swim at a national centre - your coach is a GB   coach, all the support staff are GB, so they  know what you're doing, and if you refuse to   do something, it's always that worry - luckily  it doesn't happen now - but like previously, if   you didn't want to do something they'd be like "oh  well you know we can take your funding off you"...   um but because that's happened previously  - I know it wouldn't happen now - it's   always in my head. [Caragh] Yeah absolutely.  [Tully] Unforgotten. So it's all - I always   felt pressured like "oh well, um that'll mean  like I'm not adhere into the rules of ROAR,   and I'm not doing this and I'm not doing  that..." and and it made me like super super   anxious - to the point where that coupled  with other things, like my mental health   was just really really bad, and I didn't  really know how to get through it um... [Music]

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