LIVE AITA Stories with Dusty Thunder - September 11th, 2024

hey YouTube gang if you can see me I'm still troubleshooting a little bit trying to get everything back up I had to reboot that's fun it's been a good time been a really good time got to get all my stuff pulled right back up so bear with me for just a moment bear with me we're going Live on YouTube or on Tik Tok as well hope hopefully everything is working teed Gremlins attacked it's a good time take me just a moment to get set back up here just a moment get all my chat Windows back into place Tech Gremlins wouldn't be a wouldn't be a Dusty Thunder stream without some tech Gremlins attacking eh so the universe would have us believe okay we're almost we're almost good to go almost good to go I need this program opened hope everybody's doing well today I'm still uh still getting booted back up here after having to reboot hopefully we are getting close to being rocking and rolling there there we are finally seeing Tik Tock side now as well hello hello hello thank you so much for the shares JMA Dar y'all are awesome qod what's your show right now 10 you Downs Great British baking show 20120 season I've heard I've seen some really cool clips from that show some really funny clips hey Tik Tok side we have a goal of 3.5k bolts to get us started that's to get candy Thunder up here now I think everything is stable you guys hear me okay hear hear me okay see me okay everything looking looking correct our uh likes goal on the Tik Tok site is tracking correctly Kayla amaline Shepard Fain the quiet Knitter Jerry Hill love X Amanda F Britany adventures with Pam thanks for the love Tony spark love Island shucking oh but you're you're almost at the end of that Journey what's up Terry in Ireland Carol jarski yes uh had some had some tech Gremlin issues elast watching podcast on the on the Fallout from love Island hey Hatter giving YouTube a try this Friday hope you can stop by it'll be a 6:30 Pacific Time hold up um I'm going to write myself a note Hatter YouTube so uh wait was it 6:30 6:30 your time which be 4:30 my time is that right I think I have a shoot during that time but I will find a way to stop by there April good to see W division Brett nice Helen NCIS finally got caught up we're candy Thunder and I are going back through Game of Thrones we're in season right now totally radical been watching the Tik Tok live streams on YouTube made it to May 2024 hey you're getting there you're starting to question if it was Wednesday joyful stranger yeah so I started I was starting the stream right at 3 and had no sound had no sound at all I'm like ah tried troubleshooting a couple individual programs nothing was working haded just full re reboot rebrute rebrute bow and Smallville gem I love being a part of this fam love and support you lot give was well received with your post hey all the Vibes all the Vibes Tony spark also West Wing and Orange is the New Black for you wants watch something but not pay attention yeah you can't love Island isn't one of those shows that you can just put on in the background right Denise I'm glitching uh YouTube side am I glitching for anybody [Music] else Amy Van landingham you got Tech Gremlins too hey Elise you're still patiently waiting for a new Thunder and Spark I might have uh might have some good news for you I might have some good news uh no other glitch reports on the YouTube side if you are still having issues you might pop out and pop back in and see if that see if that helps and bling to co re-watching new girl always a safe one to restart always always always currently watching the time I was reincarnated as a slime nelling never heard of it Caden Thunder Outer Banks sua watching One Piece Seline watching Witcher okay now we're going to need that to be a qod are you going to watch the newest season of or the new season of Witcher whenever they release it or or and M braer saw the post about thunder and Spark so excited or did you already post it on VIP oh okay where did you post oh okay that was just the story though right it wasn't yeah nightm before Christmas prison break stick to ESN at least don't think you'll ever stop watching new girl it just ends and restarts Yoko not really watching shows live anymore watch SWAT W to Vision lowkey season 1 we don't really watch any live shows either even ring of power we're we plan on getting at least until we need a break on Game of Thrones and then restarting ring of power from the beginning so we can kind of let some episodes build up friends again Jill always safe always a safe one blue There You Go Mama Ally the perfect couple Ashley van djk I have not heard of that football most of your comfort shows there you go Danny hey football football's on a lot right now Kayla rewatching friends ah the comment on Thunder and Spark shared when it was dropping oh yeah yeah yeah yeah okay no one else knows in chat right now I'll let them know here soon hey [ __ ] that's the username uh e ulick feel like that's a trick name Tony spark Kayla Serenity and turmoil Heidi M Den Bart adventures with Pam [ __ ] again there Britney [ __ ] again Anna Hardman Karen shaer cutter love X Janine Britney Carol jorski anise Moon Anna hunman Jamie Wendy Taylor andromed Amber Jill Amanda F king of tiny tiny carar Jennifer what is the rest of that name Jennifer car Jennifer Carman Amanda F love X totally radical you guys are awesome April Fairbanks with the first Super on the YouTube side says congrats Matt header on your YouTube live Friday heck yes had her taking the leap taking the leap thank you thank you it's not really a spoiler but but yeah not nuto there you go beyond Kaden Caden's underwatched Naruto a lot whenever he was smaller so I got to see a lot of it then Don banks with the Canadian do 39 thanks so much for the love all right let's go a and get rocking and rolling sorry for the late start Tech Gremlins be damned they just attack at the worst possible times coming up we have stories about unappreciative co-workers financially cutting off children disputes over spending time with step children Tik Tok videos gone wrong soccer dad fights poor roommate etiquette and of course we have spicy stories including a spicy mother-in-law story and a petty Revenge story get excited for that first goal of course is 3.5k bolts to get candy Thunder up here on the Tik Tok side and a $40 super goal on the YouTube side to do a shirt change later on we'll be doing amas for goals on the uh YouTube site as well make sure you are subscribed on the YouTube side to stay up to date on all the latest content subscribing on YouTube is free uh you can also become a paid member of the of the Thunder crew over there and gain access to member exclusive content and member exclusive lives we're also going to be doing this today wheel of Wheel of Thunder is happening so if you aren't a VIP member already today is a great day to join this is one of the items that will be part of the bundle giving away on Wheel Of Thunder we have ass cone scale keychains now they are baller um speaking of the YouTube side brand new episode of thunder and Spark the podcast drops tonight not this coming Sunday night tonight after the VIP live at 7 p.m Central so make sure you tune in to the YouTube site or listen on Spotify Apple podcast or one of the other audio podcast channels uh we had a lot of laughs R read some stories and yes we discussed love island of course uh and and even have a couple of thunder and Spark excerpt posts uh on my and Candy Thunder channnel on Tik Tok so after the public live or after all the lives today be sure you go check those out um because specifically candy Thunders is flipping hilarious it's about it's about her dating history and and toenails reminder today to keep chat positive and respectful everyone of course is allowed to have your own opinion um but you can share that opinion in an adult-like manner someone who has a differing opinion from you is not your enemy it's just somebody who has a different Viewpoint and it costs nothing to be a dfhp and to be respectful today also don't spoil any stories that you know how they go if you spoil or if you're a douche canoe to other people in chat you're going to get muted and eventually booted so just don't do it all right hey Mary Brown andise moon thanks so much discan is now a member of the goad fam on the Tik Tok side welcome Jasmine totally radical silver SE Sizzle Serenity and turmoil Fain [ __ ] Heidi M Holly Elizabeth silver Crystal Museum girl TLS thank y'all so much let's get some music rocking here get out your brooms what if I am the toenail I'm not I'm positive of it I'm positive of it Tang your Downs those kains are fire they are fire and the only way to get them is to get on the wheel what's up Chris Joyce no you haven't missed any stories I got a late start because it's some tech Gremlins uh What uh what games are you planning on playing [Music] Hatter yeah least see we had some good news for you you don't have to wait you're going to get the live the VIP live and then immediately Thunder and Spark Thunder and Spark booty the tech Gremlins yep yeah cat Welcome to the got checken Thunder crew on the YouTube side heck yes oh all right let's rock and roll let's do this we are at 3K out of the 3.5k needed to get candy Thunder up here to get the party started in the meantime we'll get to our first story here you ready ready ready ready ready ready hey L shorty Ola from guadalahara yalis very cool welcome welcome to the gohagen stream uh stream stream that's words are hard the AO monst rity in turmoil thanks for the love let's rock and roll hey Cat and the gosh and thunder crew geeky gamer M for th six months I'm just going to go ahead and get this out of the way now words are hard I've screwed up like 20 words since we started the stream like 10 minutes ago it's go really well all right here we go hey there it's dusty Thunder with another Reddit story for you this one is titled will I be the astronaut if I stopped organizing birthday celebrations for my cowork ERS we will be playing the game today where we do the one minute poll I'll get this started on the Tik Tok Side YouTube side please vote in comments where you think op is going to go based on title alone will I be the asona if I stopped organizing birthday celebrations for my co-workers I'm gonna go NTA here because uh that means that uh the assat co-workers were unappreciative what was that Q card Tony spark it's a new one oh oh I hadn't seen that before I was like what does this say I just made it what does this say we have a gift goal on the YouTube side of $40 uh for the first gift goal on the YouTube side we'll be counting supers are you guys keeping track of that okay we're at three out of the 40 right now and that will trigger a shirt change first the ne next one is going to be an AMA ask me anything do we really mean anything right now we do yeah sounds like op's doing it nobody's doing anything for op's birthday that makes sense to me majority are going Inta here we've got a total of show me the total come on Tik Tok 93% voting Inta I'd be shocked if we were do I blush uh nah I don't I don't think I blush like there's the normal line of things that you should and shouldn't say and uh I I pretty much ignore it I make other people blush I don't know have you ever seen me blush cany Thunder no she says I don't have emotions I just know how to flip my Humanity switch when I need to it's like Vampire Diaries down hey I'll do it when I need to do it hey before we dive into this actual story let's give some thanks real quick because we hit a goal can I get a save on the uh on the the gifters for this place you guys unlocked candy Thunder hey terer what's up to you would you guys rather have candy Thunder give feedback to this story or jump on and say hi before the story think about that let us know while I'm thanking folks here in no particular order we have animal 792 Serenity turmoil I Jerry Le go fourth we've got p&w girl C Sizzle Mama silver Stoner [ __ ] weirdo love the name Denise burkard Joyce Brown Britany 5501 Tony spark Mo an East Moon totally radical Fain H molo Chris Museum girl candy Hart Kaya C adventures with Pam and hman violet green snowman collector Wendy Taylor Amanda Flo Jennifer Carman and Laura litell thank y all so much it looks like feedback is the winning vote there so so let's dive into our story actually I got to set up a new goal real quick should have done that before I stopped the music the next thing we're going to unlock is a Tony spark appearance and confetti Tony and confetti uh let's see what we're doing here momento we are going for w coins let me pin it pinned W coins that's where we're going okay all right here we go title of the story again was will I be the askona if I stopped organizing birthday celebrations for my co-workers I've 25 worked for the same company for over 3 years and I've been organizing birthday celebrations within the office for about as long it was something done before I started but always irregularly it's not a whole lot I know but I bake whatever the birthday person wants and get a card for everyone to sign oh [ __ ] op bakes it doesn't go to the store and buy whatever cake they have available already bakes it the owner of the company reimburses me for the card but but the dessert is my expense I work with about 40 people and we celebrate each individually it's something I genuinely enjoy doing for my co-workers they all seem into it though if anyone says they don't want to celebrate at work I don't force them and I've learned new recipes it's fun they've done the same for me in previous years and I've been really grateful for it I'm not from the area and don't know many people outside of work because I'm shy and have some family responsibilities this year numerous co-workers told me both before and after afterwards that they'd forgotten my birthday I don't understand how you can forget but remember enough to tell me you forgot the GM told me last Wednesday that they had forgotten but we would all celebrate once I returned to work I took Friday off for a long weekend and my birthday was over the weekend I feel like such a loser and still kind of do one cooworker did bring in a cake which I was genuinely grateful for and thanked her for but no one wished me a happy birthday and they didn't even do a card it's the first time that this has happened I don't really understand why it upset me but it did they often forget to give me handouts or to let me know about policy changes if someone else brings in treats they don't tell me almost everyone there is kind to me I'm just forgotten about my boss doesn't seem dissat dissatisfied with my work and I'm often complimented for the work by management my co-workers just don't think of me which might be what really bothers me I talked to a friend about it and she said she'd stop organizing the office birthdays if she were in my position she said it's a waste of my time and that they don't appreciate me she thinks it's weird that so many people said they forgot my stepmom said I shouldn't stop organizing the birthdays unless it's no unless it no longer brings me happiness I don't know what to do I like baking for my co-workers and doing cards for them I just don't want to hurt their feelings or seem like I'm acting out they just forgot and to help with some feedback on the story we have the Magnificent radiant as always candy Thunder oh my God it's candy Thunder you're silly man I don't know how I feel about this one Cu uh I mean obviously she feels hurt it sounds like her um hold me hostage I know I'm holding you hostage again it seems like her her love language is is giftgiving um okay feeling struggle snuggle feeling um she uh it sounds like her love language is giftgiving um she likes doing things for other people and um and they didn't reciprocate that so um yeah I mean I would be hurt too like if I did this for 40 people um and if I knew that someone was doing this for 40 people I wouldn't make damn sure I did not forget their birthday like I would have that on lockdown for the rest of the office because what she's doing is going above and beyond for everyone there to make them feel seen and appreciated and loved and they couldn't return that and I and she said it was just this one time they forgot it was over the weekend um but yeah it still hurts it doesn't stop it from feeling painful because somebody forgot you and like she said they she doesn't feel appreciated yeah I I I'm with you and in the beginning of this at right right after finishing reading it I'm like well if you're doing it because you enjoy doing it and and bringing other people Joy brings you Joy then why would you stop but if you're doing something that people people clearly don't appreciate why do it so like bringing them Joy makes makes you feel Joy however if it if it brought them the pure kind of joy that op thought right they were creating then I think they would appreciate it and if they don't appreciate maybe they appreciate the the the attention they get right but they don't appreciate op enough as a person there you go to think of them right and that sucks I are these two are these two things intertwined like is would you stop I guess that's my question um I guess it would feel I would need to know like if I was in this situation how much am I being taken advantage of because if I'm cooking 40 cakes over the course of one year that's a lot of [ __ ] desserts um and they couldn't remember one day then yeah I guess that that would be the end for me like I because she if you don't if there isn't pain to create change then they're just going to keep taking more advantage of her they're not telling her things that she needs to know they forgot her birthday and like I don't know it just she seems like she's Fading Into the background and I I think that they need to understand what it actually feels like for her not to do those things for them so we did yeah we did read we did read another story this past Sunday and it was about the fantasy football thing or maybe it was the week I don't know they all blend together but my suggestion then was was you need to have everybody start taking turns yes agreed everybody and and that would be a solution here that that way the the office doesn't miss out on this thing but everybody needs to get involved it can't all be on your shoulders um that's one option another option is if it still brings you Jo joy to bring them a little bit of attention do the card you get reimbursed for that but don't bake anything like there's there's that little bit of pullback you have there too that's perfect I think that's perfect I think the big risk here with stopping altogether is that you did it because it gave you at least a little bit of Joy it's tainted now because you know that you you are not appreciated as a human being in this environment um so maybe if you kept going like you'd feel less Joy doing this because it always is going to be a little bit jaded or tainted uh however if you stop doing it you're going to lose all potential joy that you could have gotten had you done it so there's you just have to decide like what what feels right to you you definitely are not appreciated to the level that I think you should be and I would go from organizing the entire office like have a sign up sheet everybody's got to sign up for something and we're not doing it period um and have everybody get involved then they're a lot less likely to forget because it's maybe you do a buddy system I don't know seems like so much it it's yeah I mean it's it's a simple thing there's also there's also this one possibility because this is over the weekend is it not it's over the weekend and like he hasn't or he she op has not come back on Monday yet but she said they brought a cake oh okay they did bring a cake okay um I thought maybe maybe like so many people said they forgot because they were planning something bigger but I guess I shouldn't have got my hopes up there I think um like being quiet and shy like I I understand what she's saying and I do things for people and I don't expect the same in return like I I love to show up for people buy things for people get them what they need bring them meals like I I love to do those things it makes me feel good and it fills up my cup but at the same time if if I ever needed anything like I feel like those people would show up in the same way and I if if you don't get that in return I don't think that you're going to get joy out of something that now feels like a chore to you because you know that you're doing it for this reason and to them it does not mean the same thing they're just getting their free dessert that you're covering the cost of so I if it was me I would stop um I wouldn't stop with the card but I would stop with the cake and just let the chips fall where they may and if they have an issue then they need to work together to figure out a new solution and A New Path where it doesn't all fall in this one person's shoulders yeah okay that's here's a here's a good thought kind of combining Solutions so start start by downgrading to just the card and then if if and when I'm going to say when when they [ __ ] about not having desserts anymore then it's a really quick like hey you guys should organize a signup sheet where everybody takes part and then that takes the responsibility of trying to enforce or impose this system on the rest of the office off your shoulders because doing that like the simple Act of suggesting that to the large group or putting the sign signup sheet up is going to be perceived as Petty and [ __ ] by the rest of the team there for sure so you can remove yourself from from that imposition uh and I think start start just disengaging a little bit and maybe that's it maybe don't give so much to people who don't even give a [ __ ] that you gave in the first place or who don't see you they just see things magically appear um and I feel like this is like speaking up when something does bother you whether it's a workplace or not is you have to have at least enough of a backbone to advocate for yourself when it's important to advocate for yourself and um and I'm I'm quiet I'm shy like not on here anymore because I've done it enough but um I will advocate for everyone else besides myself um but I think there comes a point where sometimes you have to you know pull off that mask and put on a different one and and speak up for yourself when it comes to stuff like this yeah yeah and you know what I see I see some comments in there about like what do people what about people who don't like to bake if this becomes like a everybody in the team participates kind of thing uh I think if if everybody chipped in 20 bucks for the whole year then it's whoever is in charge of it this time has this budget to either get a cake or bake something uh depending on what birthday person wants right and the in the structure of that can be whatever the [ __ ] they want it to be the point is that op does not need to be the one administering it op needs to needs to just be part of the team now and maybe that's it maybe maybe you been serving them so long that they've taken that for granted and because they take that for granted they take you for granted I don't know right no I agree I think uh we've given some lots of ideas lots of ideas would you say NTA yeah I don't I don't really think there's I don't know I mean maybe the co-workers are are kind of [ __ ] but um well op is definitely not though no NTA for op and and poor op's freaking overthinking it too like they just forgot one time like should I it feels second guessing stopping doing it right but you're you're NTA here how you approach it is up to you and your comfort level just whatever you do do not allow yourself to continue being taken advantage of no I would I would if if this was me I would work on speaking up for myself when it comes to the small things so that when there's a bigger problem I can I know how to speak up for myself um but yeah if you don't start small I don't feel like you ever start to grow that back because the big things are scary to speak up about yeah it's good practice I'll give you your your Navy tidbit oh God for for the week uh and then I'll let Dusty get to Story number two but Navy got her Halloween costume it is a light up unicorn with a very like full dress Sparkles Stars the whole thing um and she wanted to try it on and I I told her no like wait till closer to Halloween um so for 5 hours this girl is like I just really want to try it on she's got the wings on she's got the unicorn horn she really wants to try this on um but also today yesterday she was saying like right before dinner hey my stomach hurts and I'm like oh you're just hungry um and then we're eating dinner she's like my stomach's still hurts but it's feeling better um so she gets her bath and after bath I'm like okay you're clean if you want to try on the the unicorn dress now we'll try it on and then get your PJs on and she puts it on she has the Unicorn dress on for maybe less than 5 minutes and she literally throws up down the front of the non-washable dress because it has uh and it's not just it's milk that she got sick and um it's it has like the lights in it so you can't wash the dress it's like spot clean only so I'm I'm at the sink for like half an hour with tul and dish soap and like trying to clean it um and yeah yeah she was in the Unicorn the puking rainbow except it was just milk um but yeah the time that she did try it on and and she was fine after it was just like something upset her stomach I don't know what it is like no fever no anything like that she just had something in there she had to get out um but yeah it was so I cleaned it and I like he was the Run running her to the bathroom but uh all over yeah that's what I used I used Onish soap to to clean it out um and so this morning I'm like oh it looks so much better it's all clean and I pick it up to smell it and it's a I didn't realize that she had also gotten it come on Tony down the front of it on the inside and I was like oh my God Navy um so I cleaned it I put it out in the sun and it is back to normal and I saved ourselves money because I was like I don't know that this is salvageable um it's okay now it's all it's all good it's all good but yeah there never a dull moment with this child never never no all right bye guys Story number two candy Thunder ladies and gentlemen she left out that uh that sandwiched in between this uh something about our dogs food have been making them sick and we' found multiple messes inside the house for the past couple days it's like what is happening but yeah and navy Thunder was sitting on the couch with me and uh gives me a weird weird look concerned look and then covers her mouth and I'm like are you okay and she covers her mouth again I'm like okay pick her up start running to the bathroom didn't make it in time all over all over yeah peroxide yeah yeah yeah uh yeah I don't think she's had any eggs recently but never know never know lots of things have eggs in them right uh okay let me get some thanks in here real quick we haven't hit our next goal yet for the 2.5kw coins however we do have a lot of gifts coming in in between stories and it's been a hot minute so Grandma shark Jenny Tarts Brandy kvin marleene jar guy mama says so Brianna Brady adventures with Pam dropping the 108 W coins IDM Jenny Tod once again there at TLS dropping the hundo Joyce Brown mama says so wonky shoe box drop it some lightning bolts andw coins there Beth bars and the gosh heck and fam heck yes Mary thanks so much Taylor Devon the stunning what does that say the stunning creature Bella thanks so much a777 Mary Bella you guys are awesome real real broad uh candy hearts candy clkb ishara marleene y'all are awesome thanks so much for love let's go Story number two here we are hey there it's dusty Thunder with yet another Reddit story for you this one titled am I the asona for cutting the amount I contribute to our budget after my wife refused to stick to our agreement regarding our kids this one's compated uh I'll start the poll and I'll read this again but uh I don't know what to think based off of this title okay title am I the asona for cutting the amount I contribute to our budget after my wife refused to stick to our agreement regarding our kids here's the scale again in case you need it cutting the amount I contribute to our budget so like that the US money after wife refused to stick to our agreement regarding our kids there's a lot of ours going on here uh hypothetically if op is the sole bread winter and has a my money our money his partner has no my money money uh and relies purely on the our money side of things and taking care of kids or being a stay-at-home parent ain't easy I'm taking a big leap here saying that that op's partner is a stay-at-home parent but it's it's like the only scenario I can see right now and in that case I'm going to say yeah op would be I'm gonna go I'm gonna go I'm gonna go a little risky and say two I'm probably way off and this is probably an NTA but a and braer says has a husband ever been completely Inta not frequently uh I mean you guys know I live on ascon 3 so uh 33% with went with everybody sucks here every time you guys go everybody sucks here it's right and I'm wrong because I forget that it exists hey Lily fos received a standard gift subscription from Chrissy Joe Chrissy Joe thanks for sending that over Lily fultz welcome to the goken fam glad to have you here I need to adjust these Hatter Hatter said whoever is coughing how dare you uh that would be Tony spark and his allergies we knew that was coming thund allergies from last week uh oh Hatter thank you for the reminder here we go let me find it here we go two ASU that's my vote this is my vote all right here we go my wife and I agreed before we got married on a lot of the big things where we would live how we would deal with our families how we would raise our kids stuff like that deal breakers one of our decisions was that as long as our kids were full-time students then they would not have to contribute monetarily to the household budget obviously they would still have chores and such if they weren't full-time students then they would get a six-month grace period after which they had to pay rent and buy their own food rent would be equal to a quarter of full-time minimum minimum wage work we agreed on this in 1998 hold up why why why why is this marriage a contractual agreement in which all future is predicted and planned for using business contract models uh and also it says as long as our kids were full-time students they would not have to contribute um okay so this is for this is for like college age and above it sounds like this is what the scenario is playing is planning for our eldest did not want to go to university and used the six months after graduation to work save money and plan a trip around the world when he got back he started an apprenticeship and is now a welder our middle kid went to University and and is now a nurse our youngest did one semester of college and decided it wasn't for him he also decided that he didn't want to work okay well that's problematic after 6 months I told him that he was now responsible for his rent and food budget he went crying to his mom saying that he couldn't afford that she said he didn't have to pay she didn't discuss it with me first yeah I mean you guys agreed upon something and she knew it existed and she disagreed with it and didn't tell you I get it it was a unilateral decision on her part she pays all of our bills I give her a set amount every month to pay for everything the money she earns she either spends however she wants or it goes into our vacation fund not a stay-at-home parent these are also 18 plus children so my uh my hypothetical was way off so I decided to cut my contribution to our budget by the cost of rent and onethird of our grocery bill I'm red flag on that too she asked me why I did that and I said that we had an agreement and that she chose to ignore it so I did the same she's been paying the difference out of the money that would normally go into our vacation account and she cut back on her personal spending but she is pissed that I am doing this she says that I'm an [ __ ] for being financially manipulative how far is financial manipulation from Financial abuse I'm just curious a toe I think she needs to either accept it or get her poor baby to grow up She Tried getting our older kids on her side but they agreed with me am I the asena yeah yeah yeah yeah uh J Fel I agree with that hold the kids accountable not impact your wife however the wife is the was the denter here the wife was the one who said he didn't have to pay it I you guys we're 100% right let's get that out of the way right now this isn't everyone sucks here it's an everyone sucks here okay because I I understand I understand op's point now and that she she was in breach of contract which isn't a legally binding thing it's just something that they agreed upon right so let's get that out of the way but according to to op and op feels like she is in breach of contract so he doesn't have to honor this contract now either but he is actively punishing her now they're parenting against each other that's the first you both suck because uh they're just heading in complete opposite directions here I think the wife did go Rogue I think their agreements that they came up with before they ever had kids and are still sticking to his [ __ ] like that's that's an unrealistic expectation to create an agreement and a structure based on percentages of minimum like it's that's making it really complicated um but I understand the usefulness for it because it helped your two other children like kind of Blitz into the real world here's the problem not everyone can Blitz into the real world like that and your youngest may be one of those kids or Mom could have just coddled him and that's why he's he's refusing to launch right there are a lot of a lot of possible things going on here but here's what I know I know that that the approach in the beginning that you used with the the a contract model here sucks and it's part of the reason that this [ __ ] has been caused today now she knew the rules or knew the agreement and went against it anyway behind your back and that made everything worse you both suck he does need to grow up he does need to figure something out and she's enabling can you imagine if we had tried to do this before getting married candy Thunder sat down and be like okay if this happens here's how we're going to approach it we're going to have a 60-day grace period we're going to take onethird of working full-time at minimum wage and our kids are GNA can you imagine if we took that approach you would not have married me you'd have been like I'm going to tell you right now this ain't GNA work I think es and everybody needs to grow up agreed candy Thunder says in here mom needs to explain why it was okay for the first two kids and not the youngest agreed I think Dad handled it poorly but she went against the agreed upon approach for their kids and the fact that she went with that approach for the first two kids is the biggest problem here if whenever it happened with the first kid she was like come on this is [ __ ] we agreed upon this before we even got married things change it would be a very different story but it is not she followed this plan with the first two kids and decided with the bay she didn't have to and he didn't have to so yeah now now it's just chaos the second child is still at home paying rent yeah so there's of course of course the siblings are like no we're with Dad on this one because they had to follow it and if mom came to them and was like uh your little brother shouldn't have to follow this this AR K Ru they were like then why the [ __ ] did we of course we're with Dad on this I'm not going to say he gets to not have to follow the system that we had to follow [ __ ] now the system's [ __ ] but it's what worked for them she changed the rules for the baby of the family Megan Carol yeah it it is it's the it's op's overall approach for me that uh that I think trying to trying to treat a a marriage and a family like a business is not healthy and this is I think one of the great examples of why from the Viewpoint of the older sibling Ina I understand that yes from the Viewpoint of the older sibling yeah D or landlord at their age there's no difference there ought to be though there ought to be okay let me get back to my base screen here we are at 1,200 to 2500 you guys nailed that es nice work you always do Hatter with the $10 super says I remember the conversation I had with my mom when I started working I understand that you cannot contribute a lot however I would appreciate if you pay for your own things that would mean a lot I think it's a big deal uh not I don't know I understand the benefit of what they did I just trying to treat a family and a marriage like a business is really dangerous it's really dangerous not everything is black and white in marriage or family you can make everything in business black and white and make decisions based on numbers right it's it's not that way leans the problem is the younger one doesn't want to work I understand and Mom he must have sensed that he could get Mom to sway his Direction because he pulled it off that's the problem too guess what he sucks too he's right in there with the everybody sucks here the older two siblings are the only ones who don't suck in this story or that story that story this story okay here we go uh we are still heading toward that $40 goal what are we at right now 16 we're at 16 YouTube side we're at 16 right now shooting for 40 Tik Tok side we're at 1477 of 25 hundo and again that unlocks Tony spark and confetti YouTube side we're going for the first one which is the shirt change second one after this one is going to be a top gift or AMA just so you know and let's dive into the next story here hey there it's Tony spark are you okay go to back cough pull my nose was that a cough or was that a shark it was a cough was violent are you okay do we need to get some antibiotics have you just gone viral I tried to not be super coffee and I get it we appreciate it you can't control your bodily functions I know why luckily we added that filter that sound like I'm just going to [ __ ] my pants it's not that kind of sickness luckily we added that audio filter that automatically mutes mutes mutes mutes anytime somebody rips ass during the stream it's just allergies it's fine it's just allergies totally totally totally just allergies all right here we go hey there it's dusty Thunder once again with another redit story for you this one is am I the asona for not having a burning urge to spend time with my partner's daughter burning urge feels like a weird word choice to me uh if you have a burning Ur you need to say a doctor okay uh I think it's a UTI uh poll has been started am I the askot for not having a burning urge to spend time with my partner's daughter all right here's here's my prediction on this I think uh burning urge is an exaggeration I think it's it's having uh having no desire to spend time with my partner's daughter partner is upset about this maybe they're we don't know if they're married or not partner kind of makes that unclear but still I think this is a um are you going to develop a relationship with your partner's child yes or no op he doesn't have a desire to it I'm going say yeah you're an [ __ ] for that askon to again taking a leap and my last leap didn't work out so well so grain of salt on everything here hey Donna Johnson with $5 super thanks so much for the love there poor Tony needs help we have some cough drops there's some whiskey in the freezer I believe I didn't know that was there loving wife finally caught alive heck yeah hey uh time waster says my sink is off is it off for anybody else but sometimes Tik Tok gets wonky and you just have to jump out and jump back in and confirm [ __ ] cool cool all right majority of people went ask on two on this one let's find out how off we are okay it's not that way for everyone so if you are having SN issues and it's bugging you enough you might jump out and jump back in but I am starting the story right now all right title again am I the ask for not having a burning urge to spend time with my partner's daughter I've been with my fiance for about a year and a half and we have been living together about 3 months he is divorced and has an 8-year-old daughter who lives with us he shares custody with his ex-wife but the girl spends a lot more time with us than she does with her and she is not very willing to visit her mother especially in the last couple of months the girl loves me very much and I love her but I can't seem to develop deeper feelings towards her what's deeper than love as I haven't known her for her entire life only for a year or so I have a feeling that I will never love her as much as her father loves her which is natural because she isn't my daughter I haven't given birth to her and I don't have any maternal instincts as I don't have children of my own yet when I started dating my fiance his daughter spent about about half a week at his place and the other half at her mother's in the beginning we had plenty of time to be alone and spend time with each other however since we started since we started living together it seems as though we have less time for each other because the kid is with us all the time you get a red flag for using the term the kid she doesn't want to spend time with her mother it has honestly become exhausting for me because I like my freedom and I like to be able to relax when I get home from work and spend some time with my fiance but I can't do that anymore because the kid is around all the time another red flag for you don't get me wrong I love her you're a liar very she's very sweet and kind but honestly it's becoming too much especially because she's home all the time and I can't seem to develop the need to spend time with her or miss her when she isn't around I don't know how to communicate this to my fiance without hurting his feelings or making making it seem like I can't stand his daughter I knew what I was getting into from the beginning but the situation has changed as she now spends much more time with us and I just wish we had more time for ourselves for ourselves sorry words are hard and I just wish we had more time for ourselves I feel like our relationship is suffered be words are really hard I feel like our relationship is suffering because of this I feel like he takes everything I've sacrificed to live with him for granted and that he feels I have to love his daughter as if I'm her biological mother also it's not like she doesn't have anyone else her grand grandmother who loves her very much lives very near and she could honestly spend some more time there it's not like she needs to be home all the time am I the asona for not having a natural urge to spend time with this child and for wanting some time for myself okay uh op there are two separate things going on here and you're making yourself into a much bigger [ __ ] than is necessary Let Me Clear something up for you every parent wishes they had more time fors every parent couple wishes they had more us time okay that's a natural parent thing however you're taking it a step further and you are now resenting resenting your partner's child enough to call her this kid or the kid like you you're resenting her for that you said you knew what you were getting into whenever you made this decision to be with him him but the situation has changed [ __ ] did he have a daughter then does he have a daughter now nothing has changed you accepted the risk that she might Someday live with y'all fulltime whenever you got with him because that's what having a child means it means you have a child so you looked at this as a oh well she's only going to be around X x% of the time okay I think I can do that and now that you're in it you're like like I regret all of this I thought I'd have a lot more me time okay and I I I I I understand I understand what you're saying I understand it but let's let's just divide this amongst the two halves here and say that the need for more me time and more us time is a common parent thing you cannot let that need which is a selfish need let's just let's just call it what it is it's a selfish need and that's okay you have to fill up your own cup to be a good parent you have to fill up your own cup up that's on this side the other side of it is resenting the child for it and I'm saying the child the kid your partner's daughter you can't do that as a parent and if you I'm calling you a parent because you willingly entered into a relationship with your partner had a child you get to be a parent whether it's a bonus parent or a stepparent is up to you kind of feeling like you're choosing the Stepmom route right now which is unfortunate but if you can start to understand that your selfish needs for more you time and more us time are things that are shared with every parent and and start working a solution to those instead of just being pissed off at a child for it you're going to find yourself in a much healthier and happier place and you know what a lot of parents go through this too okay when you're not feeling like you have enough me time or enough us time you have to be intentional about number one communicating that your partner and being like hey I think we really need to schedule some us time what do you feel about how do you feel about doing a couple's weekend next weekend how you about how do you feel about doing a little weekend getaway start planning things and if you need to fill up your own cup communicate that and be like hey I I'm I'm noticing like a a a Stress and Anxiety because I I I haven't been able to do some of the selfish things I like to do before would you mind if I took an hour and when did this thing that I really feel like we help fill up my cup your partner will appreciate that whenever we candy Thunder I got I think emotionally wise enough to start communicating those things and started understanding what was happening we'd start encouraging each other to do more things that filled up our respective cups she is great when she can tell that I'm stressed about being like hey why don't you go do this thing that I know you love doing this weekend you need to do something for you have a partner like that I have I I have a sneaking suspicion here op that you are not saying to your partner have you done anything for you lately I feel like you need to fill up your cup it's it's tough oh lady emis oh says if this is love to op what what is hate what is resentment you do not love this child op you've convinced yourself that you can put the label of Love on it because you willingly entered into a relationship with someone who has a child but that is not what you're doing you're saying that you love her but really you just resent her and I'm telling you the more you focus on solutions to filling up your own cup and your couple cup feels weird to say but you know what I mean the more that you do that the happier you're going to be the less stressed you're going to be in general and you're going to start seeing more opportunities to to have fun with her to do bonding activities with her because you're not going to be so pissed off all the time start working the problem the real problem instead of just being pissy to a kid about it it's a you problem it's on you to fix it I understand it's too much it's it's too much for her but it doesn't matter if you enter into a relationship with a child with not child if you enter into a relationship with someone who has a child you accept the potential risk that that things will change with relationship with that child you also accept the potential risk of that child being around less right it's you don't control that but you're accept ing the future gig of being a bonus parent you are stepping up at that moment moment when you enter into that relationship and saying yes I'm willing to do this and be good at it you don't get to say yes and then be like whoa whoa whoa I thought this was going to be a part-time gig thank you very much it is a package deal absolutely Twisted you don't think op's emotion mature yeah you know uh kitty cat Queen I agree with that um but also I think emotional maturity is one of those things that is a is a trial by fire right I think you become emotionally mure mature words hard or I think you become emotionally mature by by [ __ ] up I think you become emotionally mature by by misidentifying things and then later realizing what happened I think this is probably part of her journey to emotional maturity I hope I hope ah not what she signed up for apparently yeah and you know what she may end up just bailing out um but but I think it is important for her to hear for her to hear like hey bio parents and bonus parents all wish they had more them time like don't feel like that just because you didn't you're not you're not a a biological parent in this scenario that you that that's unique to you it's not we all yeah we all want more us time heyo look at that you guys hit the Tony and confetti goal Tik Tock side let's give some love for that can I get help on the the gift list please AA Thunder is in the house ladies and gentlemen would you like to come say hi you want to come say hi Ava thunder come on I'll give some thanks and then AA Thunder will jump up and say hi hey TLS Journey Janice 2014 Bailey Chapman Kayla C Tony spark Britany loving wife 8 to Sarah Neil Blackwolf tf90 H molo Jin a damn near [ __ ] myself again about through your phone H Malo Jin Longo Shelly maxy Shannon Aaron Mama Sayo Holly Jil talk Beth bars Dylan sprig we've got Abigail Victoria ba Denise burkard Leo named water real Broad zubac Mama silver Brandy Perkins bandala will Monga Jenny Tarts this guy you know adventures with Pam joyy Brown AK Mary Tinker Bells Lily fols we've got Bryce kleene Violet green yeah Violet green 1987 candy heart Bernie girl Gazoo tattoo Stoner [ __ ] weirdo toally radical candy Thunder and Jerry Leo four thank y'all so much for that we got a couple of appearan is coming up for you here confetti everywhere we're back to the classic confetti the non 10 m strings or streamers all right next thing we're going to we're going to unlock is a spicy mother-in-law story and Candy Thunder [Music] feedback this is the part of the song that got weird I remember now [Music] okay we are going for paper cranes ladies and gents Tik Tock side 155 paper cranes that goal has been pinned say hello to AA thunder come on over aa oh my God AA Thunder down for you there you go step to the middle of the mat don't slowly start backing away like your mom how was school it was good was good you have any uh any crazy tests or anything yet or is it too too early in the school year for that to be happening um we've had quizzes and I need to retake my math quiz because I didn't do good on it because I asked the teacher what I did wrong and he told me what I did and then it then then it wasn't what I did wrong oh so I don't know what I did wrong so let to go to tutoring and then I can ret it's a longer path to learning something but uh but you'll get there at least you can retake them yeah you know what I mean I don't know when all this test retaking started wasn't like that when I was in school ladies and gents you got what you got and that was uh that was it yeah those are Hatter Matt Hatter made those tickets so when I when I vote I can use tickets to be like someone's yes so like this is my ticket all the time she just gave me this I'm kidding no that's this one this one this one's for you three there we go what are you trying to tell me like what are you trying to tell me confetti stuck in in headphones got it yeah you're using the tickets to tell so uh favorite subject or favorite class so far step up just a here math why why is math your favorite subject I just like math is it because it's easy like you're you just get it better yeah and it's just like there's only one right answer so it's not like open for consideration only one answer I get it I get it kid all right Ava we Ava Thunder big love she got out of here in a hurry what's going on there now we got somebody else to share with you you know this guy ladies and gentlemen Tony Spar oh my God it's dead I still don't understand why I have plastic arms and glasses that what's up everybody how's everybody doing what's up what's up what's up hello how's everybody's Wednesday everybody good there's never just one answer I don't know I don't know she says she likes math I hate math math is the worst it's uh math is the worst math is the worst I hate math it's yeah it's not great that doesn't mean I have to like the math I like I can do it it's not like I'm completely in well I am completely incompetent sometimes but not necessarily with that I just you know math is just not not great what was your favorite subject [Music] um I like history like social studies history kind of a history nerd so I like that stuff um didn't like math didn't like science yeah math is money not great with that either so um yeah I was not a big math or science fan for sure but no you know um I Monica I just kind of like to just tough it out um I've got some nose spray cuz you know I like to just tough it out when you can't breathe after a while like that um I did take some allergy medicine for a couple days and you know no candi's not sharing the wall tap and based on last week I'm out on the wall tap I'm I'm not I'm not getting involved in the wallap business yeah she did share the Puda fed stuff that was a miracle drug that was great yeah hey also did you guys know that you should go follow at Tony spark weekly Shameless plug shocking and you can go check out videos that have been uploaded on Dusty Thunder and Candy Thunder's page not mine but it's fine and um make sure you follow both of them and like those videos and they I was graciously tagged in at least one of them so um you know hopefully you guys can you know see those and tag me I also uploaded a Chief's video yesterday you guys could check that out oh you have a gift coming in 20 minutes have a gift coming in 20 minutes me or like everybody else did you just door Dash me some medicine CU that' be funny it's just some whiskey that'd be great clear clear it out yeah that'd be great clear it um Netty po okay I can't I don't listen I don't know the voodoo magic behind this Netty paw thing but I've seen them and they're disgusting I don't think I could do it he's just water I can't do it I can't no I'm out I'm out on that um honestly I would just like to have my voice back that I haven't had for like two months and then like I'm gonna be I'm like got these allergies and then I'm GNA go to the game this weekend and I'm GNA yell again and then next week I'm it's just a NeverEnding cycle I'm just just I'm never going to have a voice again speaking of going to the game this weekend uh for you Tik Tok VIPs if you didn't know there is there is a VIP only post that was uh our our adventure to the last Chiefs game yeah I also posted a video at Tony spark on that page you could check that out too about the chief's Adventure from Ted's point of view navage nage yeah no I can't I'm out it works at least don't tell me that I'm just going to have like a weird voice for the rest of my life now because of this but I also talk too much and then Ted gets Ted is just loud and that just doesn't help Ted yelled a lot at the Chiefs game especially the end of the Chiefs game it was not pretty Ted Ted was not happy when it looked like we were losing that Ted was not thrilled yeah Ted did not have much of a voice left after that but anyway all right don't forget to follow at Tony Spark ladies and gents we're uh we got some good stories left to go on these gift goals today but we got to get through them we also have a first ever double spicy story unlock today double spicy story unlock yeah a goal is going to unlock not one but two spicy stories it's going be a double Story I mean they're not related but they're just like damn you're gonna unlock two story all right yeah there we go Tony spark ladies and gentlemen lots of love and lightning bolts in chat for Tony spark okay and for Ava Thunder for jumping on randomly uh let me dive over to the next story here we are at 75 of 155 on those paper cranes uh and I think we are at 21 no 24 23 is on the YouTube side heading toward 40 for the first shirt change here December 21st Chiefs spe Texans that's going to be a good one that's going to be a damn good one all right let's dive in hey TLS thanks so much for the paper greens Melanie you as well silver Britney Ally yall are awesome M Drex welcome to the goek and fam glad to have you uh do you have to subscribe to be a VIP yeah you do um unless you one of the lucky recipients of a random gifted VIP that other members sometimes throw out let's dive in here hey there it is Dusty Thunder once again with another Reddit story for you this one is am I the astronaut for posting a heartwarming video of my friend uh I'm guessing friend opposes this so if it is about your friend and your friend doesn't want it yeah well I mean May yeah maybe not for posting well we're not taking it down when they asked so it's a different I don't know I'm gonna go three on this because idfk AC3 there we go perfect timing got a ticket to ascon 3 here here is uh here is the scale in case you need it three is you should have done it differently uh four could have done it differently definitely shouldn't have done that I don't think it's the posting that's the the problem here I think it's probably the not taking it down if if the friend asked for that so again I'm making up half the story in my head consent is important but we will see Jen here agreed hey we have all kinds of accounts posting stuff about us all the time turns out they're just stealing our content though and I don't like that so es KF 2626 you're probably right probably when in doubt Esh it's normally right all right let's dive in here we had 38% go with what was that askon three askon three all right I female 26 who didn't take long I female 26 have a friend who I will call Max male 28 who has a foster child Dexter male tin Max is a foster parent and has fostered Dexter for the last three years Max and I aren't super close but his best friend is my sister and Dexter is friends with my son basically I don't fully understand the whole fostering thing but from what I do get is Dexter has been upgraded from a temporary placement to a permanent placement with Max though not adopted Dexter will now not be moved away from Max and will not be given back to his real parents Dexter requested this but it had to be approved by the courts which they weren't sure would happen because his real parents have been wanting Dexter back last week Max got confirmation from the courts that Dexter had been made permanent Max Max decided he wanted to throw a big surprise party for Dexter to announce this to him Dexter came home from school and was shocked by everyone being there and his reaction was super cute Dexter was super confused as to why everybody was there but Max told him that they just wanted to celebrate Dexter going into year six about halfway through the Party Max started to read out a whole speech the speech was really sweet and emotional it spoke about Dexter when he first came to live with Max how he grew and developed from a small boy scared of the world into a charming and outgoing little man and at the end of the speech Max said how he had confirmation that Dexter is becoming permanent and will be living with Max forever and said something like how he is so excited to be able to see Dexter grow up and into an adult as soon as Max finished it started to sob ran to Max and said something like I thought you were going to say I had to leave and then they just held each other it was an incredibly cute moment now I am an influencer I do family content on Tik Tok I have a decent following not like crazy but not like crazy big but enough I felt really lucky to have caught the speech and Dexter's little I thought you were going to say I had to leave on camera and I edited it which took me ages and posted it to my Tik Tok page it was one it was one of my best performing videos which made me really exced excited I sent the link to Max to show him and I thought he would be excited but instead he went absolutely insane at me he called me screaming and demanded that I take the video down like he was scary on that phone call I initially was hesitant to take it down because it was performing really well but after an hour I took it down because he said he was going to file a takedown request on my whole account and and the video if I didn't remove it myself now my son was invited to go watch a movie at the cinema on Saturday this week but Max is now saying they won't be going unless they can pick up my son and me not attend which will not happen so max is now excluding my son from meeting up with his friend which is entirely unfair on my son so the question was am I the esona for posting a heartwarming video of my friend [Music] um yeah you can't post videos of someone else's kids without without consent you shouldn't post videos of other people like especially private moments without consent it was an [ __ ] thing to do let's just say that it was definitely an [ __ ] thing to do to not get permission to do that first it was their moment like you were a spectator there and yeah you were you were lucky to have witnessed it and to have captured it uh the proper play would have been just to edited up send them a link to it okay this is one of those things where like this is the private moment for you guys I want to film it and capture it because it's it's just a beautiful moment now here's the video you do what you want with it if you want to post it cool please tag me at and then you can repost right like you could still share this with your audience and not and not go a route that violates anybody's privacy as a friend this was an [ __ ] move I would say as a content creator this is still an [ __ ] move it's just not uh it's not something that you should do definitely with kids involved especially with kids who are part of the system involved I like there there may be some legalities there involved on that level too so yeah it was an [ __ ] move where specifically um I mean I think it's a two for me you definitely should not have done this um I don't think it was it wasn't malicious I I don't think op realizes that you shouldn't do this I don't think op has has hit this kind of scenario before and was was really confused by the reaction there as well and I I think on the fostering side of things it's more complicated so I'm sure there's a lot op doesn't know here but in general now you know get consent from someone uh before sharing content that features them specifically if it's a private moment uh in in like a a really sentimental moment for them there was a way to do this and again I think it was to edit it up and to send it to him as a gift and be like hey I made this for you it's awesome uh I think so do what you want with it and if you do post it please tag me so I can share it with my audience and that that's the end of it then you still get to do something cool and you still have the possibility of sharing it with your audience but you're not violating anybody's privacy and you're not ruining any kind of friendship that you had there before op was just looking to go viral he's an ascon 4 uh it's to for me he definitely shouldn't have done it definitely shouldn't have done it Shaz what if the biop parents saw it and found it that's what I mean the the fostering kid with kids in the system it is more complicated definitely shouldn't do that doing it just for clout sucks if you had done this because it was a heartfelt moment and then shared it to to Max and let him make the decision I want to do with it that would have been like yes this is coming from a good place but the fact that you just went captured it edited it send it straight to Tik Tok without even telling him until after after it had been performing well for a while yeah it's an [ __ ] move it's an [ __ ] move the only reason you're not going one is because I don't think you realize that you shouldn't do this and now you know so if you ever make this mistake again yeah you're an ask on one you're the worst there's there's your ignorance has helped you in the situation not be full-blown [ __ ] to just be a little bit of a an ignorant [ __ ] full-blown [ __ ] wrong too all right we got TLS sending paper cranes through Tony spark Bella JY Jordan candy Thunders s a paper CR through as well more from TLS we are at What on YouTube goal right now 23 is we're at what 38 okay we're we're two away on the YouTube side to unlock that goal and to get started on the next one we're at 80% of our goal with the paper cranes on the Tik Tok side we are almost there and as a reminder this one unlocks a spicy mother-in-law story and Candy Thunder feedback can't we get some feedback hey Starlight starbite fa paw Fox Effie Ramsey Bri Britney thanks so much for the loves Bri sending a or I'm sorry Britney sending a whole 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comes from the Mother-in-law subreddit and it's also one of these sisy story once again making the disclaimer for the book talk folks this is not spicy like risque don't worry we're going to talk about arolas or anything like that uh title of this story from the Mother-in-law subreddit is mother-in-law taught my daughter to lie what arola that was too far stop saying trying to figure out what what what it was that was too far random ter what do you think it was I don't know all right I'm not going to to run a poll for this one cuz it is not an aita story but let's dive in title again was um mother-in-law taught my daughter to lie oh boy here goes my 39 male mother-in-law has taught my daughter to lie attempts to talk this out with her have gone completely sideways my wife 39 female is pregnant she doesn't need the dress and I could use tips on how to handle this please fire away a few months ago I noticed that my 5-year-old daughter started asking me not to tell her mom about treats she got at my mother-in-law's house when I picked her up she'd whisper that mother-in-law gave her donuts and ice cream with no actual food just sweets I discussed this with my wife and we initially thought it was a one-time thing but it kept happening several times a week on the way home my daughter would tell me that Granny gave her a treat and asked her to keep it a secret after the third or fourth time I directly spoke to my mother-in-law and father-in-law I explained that my daughter needs real food not just sugar and that these treats make bedtime difficult because she's too hyped up I also mentioned that asking our daughter to keep secrets from her mother is unacceptable as as it sets about precedent I thought this would resolve the issue issue words are hard holy crap I thought this would resolve the issue but unfortunately it didn't as far as I can tell they just told me what I wanted to hear about a month ago the situation escalated Beyond treats my mother-in-law's habit of encouraging my daughter to keep secrets has led to other concerning behaviors one my daughter now does things she knows are wrong and asks one parent not to tell the other she spoke to a stranger in her yard and asked him not to tell me thankfully he did what the [ __ ] that's the only one you need as evidence for all of this three she's also started asking random people we meet to keep secrets from us holy [ __ ] this is dangerous for obvious reasons but the gravity of the situation seems lost on my mother-in-law we've tried discussing it with her twice but both attempts have failed my wife has taken the lead because it's her mother and I'm trying to stay calm I have a strong protective instinct when it comes to my daughter and if I get involved things will escalate quickly my wife is the caring one I'm more like the nuke option the first conversation with my wife and my mother-in-law ended in tears and silence mother-in-law refused to acknowledge that she had done anything wrong despite our daughter telling us that Granny asked her to keep secrets mother-in-law deflected blaming TV school or something we had shown her instead next they sent us a message stating that they were do that they were going to come to our house sit us down and send our daughter off with the relatives so they could talk to us about this guys I don't know how it works in your house but in this house nobody calls the shots but us I wouldn't have agreed to that anyway but the meeting was postponed because we had covid when we informed them my mother-in-law accused my wife of lying literally called her a liar if I hadn't been so sick I would have lost my temper over that is incredibly rude and disrespectful the second conversation was even worse after a couple of weeks of no contact my in-laws called to talk things out my wife engaged wanting to meet face to face and record the conversation because mother-in-law had a history of her for getting things that make her look bad they refused to allow her to record so she tried to resolve it over the phone during 75% of the call mother-in-law denied ever asking our daughter to keep secrets then she claimed she heard our daughter say it but didn't think it was important enough to mention this was a huge red flag for me eventually mother-in-law admitted to it but quickly pivoted to demanding forgiveness saying but you have to forgive me I'm her grandma you're an unforgiving person if you don't listen here [ __ ] biscuit we ain't doing that this was pure manipulation either my wife forgives her and rug sweeps or she's labeled unforgiving mother-in-law then topped it off by comparing my wife to a family member she despises and has badmouthed for years my wife let that combo my wife left that combo in hysterics sobbing so here we are my pregnant wife is stressed out which isn't good for her unborn child we've had several serious talks with our daughter about the issues this has caused discussions about keeping secrets the difference between food and treats and the importance of trust we're talking constant L I want my daughter to have a good relationship with the family but this issue needs to be addressed I'm struggling to keep my cool and not come in hot so there it is give it to me straight and to help give us some give it to me straight feedback is the one and only candy Thunder once again oh my God it's candy Thunder I don't know if it's just the red lights but you look mu Cente it's because they make you look more tan I think um I'm I'm speechless you all know me you know I'm not speechless very often but I am speechless because when called out for it she blamed her school and everything else but herself instead of taking accountability for the fact that she taught her granddaughter bad behavior and then finally admits to it and is like yeah but it's not that big a deal it's not that big a deal that she's telling strangers to keep secrets from her parents that's a huge [ __ ] deal random sorry random with a whale div I heard the Big Splash I'm like oh my goodness thank you so much for that very cool um who I don't even know what to say like I I don't know how I would react in this situation I know that um in our relationship um I'm the nuclear option and he would be the not nuclear option because I I would come un [ __ ] glued I would just come unglued at somebody who told let's just say Navy uh because she's our youngest if someone was watching her and told her to keep a secret from us like the people who are supposed to keep her safe are supposed to know everything about them at that age and they told her to keep a secret from us I would I would come UNF [ __ ] glued I would be raging pissed off that if you're the nuke option for this like my non- nuke option is a nuke option for this so like there's no alternative but the nuke option here um this is okay I'm trying to figure out why why the relationship between her and granddaughter is being allowed to continue I yeah there would be no it's it only has to be like for for monetary reasons right saving on a sitter that's the only thing I could think of and if that is the only reason that she still is watching your kid look at it this way what is it worth to prevent this lifelong damage that's happening right now what is it worth to prevent something terrible happening to your daughter because of the [ __ ] that grandma taught her what is it worth to put a stop to that it is worth a [ __ ] sitter or daycare or whatever it is Grandma's no longer an option because it's dangerous what she has been what she has been teaching your daughter to do is dangerous she is not allowed to watch her anymore and if she is going to be around her it's going to be supervised that's this is a this person would not be around our child they just would not because you have taught a 5-year-old um what it means to lie what you can get out of lying that you can she gets things for lying to her parents so now she is five she's impressionable and she equates lying with good things instead of not understanding what a lie actually is because she's been raised in a household where she's been safe and doesn't understand the dangerous part of it she doesn't understand there's danger on the other side of lying there's danger on keeping things from your parents she doesn't understand the danger part of it yet and mother-in-law grandma has just [ __ ] walked her right out into the middle of the road you know what I mean and she doesn't understand it's going to take a long time to undo the damage that's been done here and that damage can only be undone if mother-in-law SL grandma is not around to undo it every time right it's done it's done she gone she knows what she did was wrong because she lied about doing it she knows whether she says that she should be forgiven or not she [ __ ] knows what she did and it God just take some accountability if this woman had taken accountability and was like I looked at it this way and I didn't look at it this way and I am sorry for what I did you can rebuild from that somebody who comes in in comes in and says I didn't do anything wrong I didn't do anything she learned it at schol and you have to apologize to me now and then and then says oh well I did it but and then once you to apologize that is not something you can rebuild you just that your like your wife's mom just made it so much [ __ ] worse worse by not taking accountability for her actions ask on one Grandma sending you there uh also we're giving some additional modifier rewards to Grandma here you get the bizo um Jess that's that's smart and that's not actually something that we have talked to Navy the but if anyone tells your kids to keep a secret from your their parents like they already need to know that that is unacceptable and so that is a conversation that that but it just and there were there stuff that happened to Ava in school um that forced us into conversations that we weren't ready to have with her and it just it just pisses me off so [ __ ] bad that other people think they have some kind of right to do this to kids and it just it grandparent or not you do not get the right to have a have your grandchild lie to their parent it does not matter it does not matter that you're at ated by blood that does not make you family because in this moment you are not a good Mentor and not a good grandparent to your grandchild you actually did damage and didn't own up to the damage and therefore you do not get to have a relationship me that she doesn't have the child's best interest at Art no she's only worried about herself so so that means that the time that she's spending with your child is self- serving time it's not about doing what's best for her it's not about taking care of her it's not about keeping her safe and loved it is about filling up her own Cup by having a kid around for fun and grandma got to ask Han one the first time she got to ask Han one before denying it and trying to trying to flip it around and victimize herself she was already askon one now she's just pushed into the stratosphere of the [ __ ] verse she's terrible you cannot allow this woman around your children she has to earn her way back and you know what she's going to throw that that is going to be a a three- ring circus whenever you deliver that news and be like hey uh bye I he said I'm struggling to keep my cool and not come in hot come in hot brother you need to come in hot come in hot this is the time where you need to respond accordingly and you need to respond with the energy that you've been given and that's some [ __ ] so address it how you see fit yep because when it comes to your kids like activate the parent bear call it that since this is the parent bear the dad but not the mama bear she and your poor wife like [ __ ] come on you're just you're just making her mom is making her life even more complicated while she's pregnant with another grandchild like come on hey but but also uh for op hubby here green flag for him for trying to handle it without pulling her into the mix anyway oh I lowered it but it's covering your face now that's all right green flag for hubby for trying to handle this without having to create the additional stress for his his pregnant wife like that the first thought was ah [ __ ] she doesn't need to be dealing with this and he said the same thing so good for you right you tried you tried but there's the other side to think about it here and this should make it a really easy decision op come in hot to protect your wife and unborn child as well you have to Pro protect your entire camp now right but let's I think and we've talked about this before and I hope the husband understands this that it's going to be a lot easier for him to separate from mother-in-law than it is going to be for the wife because that is her mom and like severing that relationship is not as easy as just one and done like it's it's going to take some time and she's she's going to want to work on it but than I don't I don't think ask you to do that I don't think that I would I don't think that I would give another chance after this oh it's your wallet and it's stuck it's magnetic I understand was freaking me out it's gonna get lost now it's gonna get lost Michelle Heather my mother-in-law used to bribe my kids that if they do uh if they do want she wanted she would give them whatever they wanted but she would never follow through the two youngest kids now call her a liar and don't do what she asks wow that's a great relationship Builder yeah I'm sick I wonder now Michelle when you look back at that does that explain any behaviors uh or or anxiety or trauma or fears that you see in your husband right that behavior from her probably creates an over sensitivity or an insecurity in some areas for him right all right ladies and gentlemen Kya is that how you say Kya yeah thank you thank you much love there's there's no shortage of love for candy 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front of kids which had to be diffused by coaches I mean the way that you've written the title sure sounds like you are let's start the poll poll has started okay am I the astronaut for escalating a heated argument in front of kids which had to be diffused by coaches it seems like if this was really op asking this question they wouldn't have worded it like that it sounds like somebody who who was not OP who was writing op story to show them that they were the Tony spark punching in what's up yeah um hey don't forget as part of Kaden Thunder's appearance is he can reveal his new Alter Ego that he we discovered at the Chiefs game like Tony has Ted and now we know what Caden yeah well yeah we did we did make the discovery got to hit that goal we did make the discovery uh Esh you guys are probably right again I'm going to go with that this time might be the first time ever that I'm voting Esh ahead of time let's see 8 seconds left H A lot of people going ask on to here it is a very assho things to do and that's only thing to do Britney Ted and Kaden Were A vibe at the game yeah I you know here here's what happened 33% of people voted ason 2 that's our that's our winning percentage there uh at the Chiefs game ahead of time normally when we go I'm working I'm filming I'm I'm filming the whole time so I'm I'm doing something we went up there this time and I don't know how to relax I like I I don't I don't know what to do with my hands so I started filming content with my phone and that at least gave me some kind of purpose I know I have a problem I have a problem title on this one was am I the asking off for escalating a heated argument in front of kids which had to be diffused by coaches my son in grade school plays for a soccer team today at practice a heated altercation happened between me and another parent the other parent has a child on a younger team but they were practicing with us today only important from the P perspective that I won't see this parent around again I was practicing with my kid before practice began we were using the fence as a goal the goals weren't around today we were there for 5 to 10 minutes before the mom showed up and stood by the fence where my son was shooting my first thought was well this is odd why did she choose this place out of all places she also kept staring at me/ us I didn't make much of it until after the incident and looked annoyed well we kept practicing my son kicked the ball in her Direction a couple of times accidentally also he's a very soft kicker and can't kick the ball hard one of the times the dad came over and said uh and asked the mom are you okay did it hit you did they say anything at first I thought wait are they referring to my son's kick no way that was such a soft kick maybe someone else kicked in her direct maybe someone else kicked in her Direction the dad started standing by the mom and we kept practicing after 5 minutes my son accidentally kicked in her direction again then the dad said I don't know if it was to me or my son if this ball comes this way again I'm going to kick it over the fence I responded with for what we've been practicing here we were practicing here before you showed up go somewhere else he rambled some more and I said [ __ ] off he approached me physically until he was within a foot of me he said you want to [ __ ] you want all this smoke you don't you want to go let's go and I said dude you've got 10 to 20 years on me but you're acting like half my age get the [ __ ] out of my face that's when the coaches showed up and diffused the the situation I definitely played a part in escalating the situation especially with kids around not really with an earshot of our incident though but I'm sure that they could have seen that we were verbally arguing about something Judge Me based on the above but I'll add these two extra details after the coach has diffused the situation I walked away and the dad was and the dad was trying to apologize to me and I just laughed and walked away and he started saying a keep crying this happened at the beginning of practice at the end of practice we were walking away and he said hey man have a good one and an apologetic tone again I didn't acknowledge Him but my son overheard him telling other parents it's okay some people are like that okay so the title was am I the ASA for escalating a heated argument in front of the kids which had to be diffused by coaches uh I mean yeah I think I think it is still an es I'm gonna officially go with that but I do want to dive into to op specifically here uh because there was no need for any of this to happen I'm sure I'm sure there was some Papa Bear uh things going on here because you know it was his kid and he thought this guy was could have been talking to his kid and he's like hey number one this is a soccer field they don't have the goals out so what do you want us to use we were shooting here before she came and stood over here I understand that um getting as heated as you did probably didn't need to happen um in front of your kid uh but but I I understand how you got there so for you specifically for me op I think it is a um it is it is a three I don't think you're huge [ __ ] like um you know the shitty thing is our kids are always watching us and learning how to do everything based on how we do it right so your your conflict resolution here by telling somebody to [ __ ] off um not that I don't agree with it but you do have to understand that that that's what you're modeling right then as well and if the other could kids could hear you you're modeling that to them too so that's uh that's not great it's not great it's a three for me it's an Esh overall um youth sport is a breeding ground for like for for paranal confront confrontation uh and and I think part of the reason is that youth sports is um parents can attend practice when you get into the school sports Junior High and above it's a Clos practice parents don't get to come sit and watch everything right there's probably less bickering that's going to happen there but uh but yeah it I mean this kind of [ __ ] does happen and there are a lot of parents like this it was you didn't need to go as as hard as you did edit so you could have done it differently or you should have you should have done it a little bit differently but I get where you're coming from here but op walking away was good yeah Rebecca they over the other dad was way over the top yeah getting all puffed up because a ball rolled toward his wife what was she over there like I can't believe it I'm standing on the side of a soccer field and the soccer ball rolled towards me John John help me protect me Kimberly es is everybody sucks here hey you know what you guys hit the tiny Dy goal let's talk about that for a second holy cow can I get a list of of gifters please you bet Kimberly do she keep his opinion to himself when it h happened several time why didn't she move D Doodles Dragon I think she 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to the chief's game last week I partied pretty Hardy I discovered that I have an alter ego of my own whenever I am under the influence of drum roll please um do you guys want to know the name you guys would you guys like to know you guys might already know some subscribers would know some subscribers would know but yes I did get a haircut um and the name is Keith I will not be answering any questions at this time but um yes Keith whenever I have a few drinks I become Keith and I will not be answering any questions at this time about Keith I'll answer other questions any you have I'm a nice guy Keith bourbon mull yep I do have a little baby mullet going too well tiny bit I'm here [Laughter] Apple want borrow some eyelashes ah yeah he's he's got Furby eyelashes Furby eyelashes is Keith a Taylor fan is Keith a Taylor fan I'm not not a Taylor fan what all what all have you said about Keith so far I said Keith no questions but I I won't be answering questions at this time oh my gosh yeah somebody said Keith bourbon Keith bourbon yeah I said that I said that Keith bourbon Keith bbon that would be me all right well it was very nice to see you guys Tony um all right we'll dive into the petty Revenge story ladies and gentlemen Keith I mean not right now he's not Keith he's Kaden thunder right now Kaden Thunder much love much much love for him coming up and now we get the petty Revenge story and we are going for the high Bears we're at 662 of the 2K already Petty Revenge reward story here we go oh oh boy hey there it's dusty Thunder with another Reddit story for you this one is called wait is it from Petty Revenge sub it sorry it wasn't on there yep yep yep yep yep all right here we go hey it's dusty Thunder again this time I've got a petty Revenge story for you this one is called the that's the last sorry why your intro is hard now hey third take hey there it's dusty Thunder with another story for you this one is from the petty Revenge subreddit and is titled that's the last okay Boomer I'll hear from her uh oh boy no poll on this one refilling the ink on my wife's printer today reminded me of this one it was my final day before I began retirement actually a half day about 30 minutes before lunch the new printer for the new Jin Z receptionist had arrived I had always made it my duty to unpack and install new computer equipment because one I could make sure it was done correctly and two I enjoyed doing it I brought the printer into the receptionist office and told her what I was about to do she said she could handle it I said it's my job and my pleasure she told me she had done it before and that she did not need a man to do it for her I asked if it would be okay if I at least unpacked it for the documents inside she says okay Boomer you could hear the snark in her voice as if she had rolled her eyes any further back she would have SE she would have been looking out her ears so I opened the box grabbed the shipping docks and left the instructions and ink bottles nearby then I lifted out the printer to make sure everything was in there opening The Little Door where the ink is loaded I saw four Stoppers magenta cyan yellow and black left to right all in that order about an hour or so later my retirement lunch and was interrupted by a phone call to my now former boss big problem the new printer was printing all kinds of weird colors and the receptionist could not figure out what was wrong the boss asked if I had any suggestions I told him she's smart enough to handle it and that she didn't need an old RoR like me to do it for the boss relayed my comments to her word for word made a few suggestions of his own hung up turned to me and asked what could be wrong maybe she mixed up the colors when she was loading the inks I found out later that the re that the receptionist got scolded for not letting me do my job one last time so that it would have been done right she also got scolded for obviously not following the instruction manual the boss kept her on anyway all it took was Shifting the colored caps one reservoir to the right and putting putting the black cap on the far left Reservoir no color printers were damaged during the commission of this Petty Revenge very nice sir it wasn't even that like it's not even super Petty it's just you know like no she said no so no I guess she kind of chose that fate for herself into the receptionist I'd be like how does that sock taste is it like linty did it just like take all the moisture from your mouth and how you know how long did you have to chew on that sock because that's what happened uh also to be so Brazen and then to completely [ __ ] it up like I understand not needing someone else to do something for you I get it I get it and you know for a lady I understand not wanting a man to do everything for you I get it completely I support it however when you don't know what the [ __ ] you're doing and you're just taking things on because you want to be independent to the detriment of the organization you're working at that's a problem right that's that maybe you're taking it a little bit too far maybe when there's a specialist who can help with a specific thing you let the people who know what they're doing in that thing do it but to you op I think you played this perfectly well you didn't [ __ ] about it you didn't [ __ ] about it at all to your to your now former boss you didn't [ __ ] about anything you were like a she doesn't need an old Boomer like me maybe she got the ink cartridges mixed up and he knew immediately what it was he knew immediately wait he didn't touch the packs did I screw that up so I open the box grabbed the shipping docks and left the instructions and ink bottles nearby then I lifted out the printer to make sure everything was there opening The Little Door where the ink is loaded I saw four Stoppers magenta cyan yellow and black left or right all in that order he saw them but he didn't he didn't mix them up all it took was Shifting the little color Cap's one reservoir to the right and putting the black cap on the left Reservoir that was in order to fix it that's what she needed to do to fix it yeah the last line doesn't say that he didn't sabotage it no he said all it took to fix it was that I don't know maybe I'm misunderstanding this all it took was Shifting the colored caps one reservoir to the right and putting yeah op he didn't touch anything I don't know I don't know I don't know okay uh we are at 5 o' here with my with my cowboy hat Hey Taylor Ramirez with the super on the YouTube side thanks so much for that greatly appreciate it uh I'm going to get some some mus going on here random candy white random sending all kinds of the hand Hearts through and the donuts and all kinds of stuff Ash T Shan Shannon Aaron storm bled better SOS Flint JY vixon storm bled better again Stacy Lyn Foxworth random again there Karina kabowski RZA random Marlene inchers Melanie thanks so much for the love random 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