Barack Obama says he needs Michelle Obama's permission to appear in any show and I said to the first lady that that you were welcome to join us and I remember her looking me dead in the eye and saying absolutely not this is my thing did you did you have to clear your appearance on our show with her tonight yeah I did uh I basically clear all appearances with her and uh she said uh look I know James loves me more so I'm fine with you being on the show you'll never you you'll never replace me in his affection I understand that of course you understand yeah I mean you guys have played dodgeball together wed with Missy Elliot together I cannot do those things we've got a history