The dangers of using sex to find love( lets look at CHLOE BAILEY's story)

guys my name ISO and I am returning to my YouTube channel it's called um as you will see like in my YouTube channel I do have a podcast but I'm not going back to that as of yet so I'm going to focus on this uh channel so why did I start uh the channel basically what I've been seeing a lot online is a lot of there's a lot of content that's going on online first whether it's on Instagram whether it's on YouTube whether it's on Tik Tok but then I to focus more when it comes to life right when it comes to how to do live and how not to do life and when I was looking online and I am still looking online there's so many things online that you tend to get confused even I tend to get conf confused what do I follow what do who do I listen to why am I listening to them we trying to find ourselves right in life so there's so many ideologies you go you go to someone else's YouTube page they are they are preaching about Christianity you go to this other one's you page they are talking about the Islamic world you go this one they talking about Hinduism they are talking about African culture I mean there's so many ideologies there's so many belief systems that it can actually they are clashing most of the time and it can actually be confusing is who do I listen to which one is right which one is wrong because this one is condemning this one and this other one is condemning this one I am not here to condemn or to judge but because of that I've decided to create actually my own Hub or my own channel where I focus really on facts on truth of life because you know sometimes when you are born in a family where there's so many belief system whether your mom is a Christian or your Jad is not a Shen me he's an Islamic and they got together and somehow the way they do life or the way they raise you tends to clash and you don't know which one to follow you don't know okay do I become a a Muslim what okay what ideology must I must I follow so I thought you know what let me do something 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going to talk about that really interested me I was listening to Chloe Bailey's uh album right the latest album she justed an album actually it's not even been a month it's been like 3 weeks so three weeks ago she dropped an album called uh trouble in Paradise the first one that she dropped was last year it was called in pieces right you can go listen to her album and support her music uh they started with they start it together with her sister o hel belly I don't know if you've watched The Little Mermaid but if you watch The Little Mermaid that's hel and she has her sister and they started a YouTube page long time ago and Beyonce signed them and now they are like Global Superstars but record label Chloe I do feel like it's not really promoting her as she should be promoted and I do have some opinions on that because I don't know if it was an actual fact because I I haven't heard anything from her from her record label but I don't feel like she's pushed because her Talent actually I could say it's in the level of Adele but you see the way Adele is being pushed she does release some music in pieces in her album in pieces um she does have a song called in pieces and actually it's at the level of Adel the way that that girl's voice is so beautiful she's so talented she produces her own music she plays her own instrument so she does the whole thing she writes her own music and she sings her own music so she's extremely extremely talented and she learned that all of that from YouTube okay the University of YouTube and I Rely YouTube on other things that I should do as well so you guys should look them up if you like the music support her because she should be on the Millions when it comes to the views on on on on her YouTube page with the album but she's still hundreds of thousand and I feel like that's for a local artist for a global artist she should be pushed way more that she's pushed and I feel like she's not taken seriously and I have some thoughts on that why she may not be taken seriously a lot of a lot of like R&B singers nowadays they're not really taken seriously and I feel like even R&B is pushing a lot of sexual content it is um overly sexualizing black women and maybe that's that's part of the reason why I think her label does not take her seriously so I've written some some points about her album I listen to her album I started from the from the from the last album in pieces to now um travel in Paradise so in the album she discusses a lot about heartbreak which is not something that is foreign to a lot of us you guys know heartbreak and I'm talking about in the rotic sense I'm talking about in the Romantic sense excuse me when it comes to heartbreak so she's had this relationship and because I know know that it is true because she's discussed her first album in pieces so in the album you can see because she writes her album and she writes from true story right as much as it can be stylistic and she can use metaphors and sometimes she can be literal like you can read between the lines or you can analyze the music you can observe as it is while you're listening to it and I love my girl Chloe I support her she's doing in acting now she's dabling a lot in acting and um but I feel like she's extremely extremely gifted when it comes to music yes so I love the sound of it she's she's beautiful like oh my God local skills the girl can go to head voice to chess voice to fetto like her soprano like she is amazing and I learn a lot just just by listening to her cuz I do a lot of singing myself but in theater so big UPS to her album great work when it comes to like album so she's dealing with with a lot of attachment and I'm going to speak about that uh what she's dealing with in the album right it's it's more like a review and a review that affects you know how we live and the problems that we deal with so I've I've listened to uo with that when she's presenting herself according to the way that she writes in her music the way that she presents herself is very very very sexual I feel like she's leading into the relationship with sex and she is trying to attract men using sex or trying to be make a man attached to her using her sexuality she is confident all right I I don't bash her on that she's confidence is good confidence without Clarity people are going to get lost because imagine because if you know if you don't have Clarity it means you're in the dark imagine walking in the dark confidently you're going to crash somewhere whether you whether you Chloe or you are me or anyone so what I've realized of the lyrics uh I don't have the lyrics with me I can I can look up the lyrics of the song that she was doing so Chloe let's see let me see this let me take one of her songs o chlo Bailey songs or lyrics so she felt like in the relationship that she was used sexually by the guy right she she said that oh okay I know you are you just coming here for it and then when I'm looking for you in the morning you are gone right and that's a lot of mistakes that people do and I I sense that from the first album until the second album she's still doing the same is searching for love right and she doesn't understand how attachment works and I know this because I'm listening to to herself she's overselling herself even in her videos and people tend to bash her I don't bash her for doing that but I am seeing the danger in that and that's the risk when you doing something and you don't see the danger in that it can be problematic so when it comes to attachment you attach yourself because you want security right you attach yourself whether you attach yourself to nationality whether you attach yourself to uh well to a tribe with Like Me Maybe attaching myself to the closer tribe or someone attaching themselves to the Zulu tribe or they are attaching themselves in being African or attaching themselves in being Australian or in being American still an ideology that is still an attachment and we're doing that for safety we're doing that for security reasons for psychological reasons because when you don't feel safe in the world you get lost right and that's the problem you do need physical uh security like house like food like clothes and things like that they keep like they keep you in a safety Hub right and when you lack those things you turn not to exist in the world how are you going to survive without food without water without shelter where is the survival in that you gone you dead and as much as is physical security is needed also psychological security is needed and physical security in the world really we are really threatened by physical security because even the rent is expensive houses are expensive people are homeless in different nations just here in South Africa in America in Dubai rich countries because the gap between the rich and the poor is is is is is a huge gap so psychologically that's why people tend to latch on to IDE ideologies like uh your spiritual they call them spiritual um identity like your Christianity your Islamic so when you attach yourself you attach yourself because you want that security and people will attach themselves in Romance as well and I feel like in the album it was a lot of like it was very transactional the way she was writing the way she was singing it's like she was trying to win over the man using sex right did the men stay because of it yes they stay to get it but at the end they left her because she sings about in the morning I'm he's gone and I and he's not there and I do it the way you like it that's not that's not bad right that's not bad she can have all the fun that she wants but you can sense the cry right you can sense the cry in her voice her need to be loved and her need to be to be validated and her need to be appreciated but when she makes it transactional because love is not transactional right you don't do something and in return you think oh my God if I if I treat this person nice then this is what I'm going to get if I do this then this is what I'm going to get it doesn't work like that because love is not transactional and if we make relationship transactional they can run dry very quickly right so this is what I realized when I was listening to it I was like M this guy is just sticking around just to use you and the thing is with black women with the over sexualizing of them it can prel like the culture of them being used and being misused their bodies just are used for just you know for consumptions and there's no value added to that I hope you guys can listen to our album and you can like analyze it if you can or just perceive it as you as you listening so um because of that attachment problem she struggled a lot and she could not because in attachment there's no love right it Sparks jealousy and it Sparks violence so what so what happened is when that happened she struggled even to get over the relationships because imagine if two papers are are glued together when you separate them the other one is going to get ribed right the other one is going to get ribbed and what's going to happen is someone is going to is going to leave hurt or is it scathed I think it scathed I think the word Escape right yes you're going to leave hurt you're going to leave shattered and that's what happened and so in order for you and that to avoid things like that I think you need to understand what attachment is and what attachment actually entails and I think on the next episode I think I'm going to touch a little bit more on attachment the difference between attachment and the difference between love and if we negate what is not attachment and we negate what is not love then we can get closer to what is right so yeah go listen to the album And subscribe like share comment and tell me what you think about this video but for now I didn't want to make this video long cuz it's the intro I thank you guys for listening bye