Intro how do we get in it I'm serious how do we always get into topics that have damn near nothing to do with us aace interview of Jil dely is currently going viral this interview is so cringe and as well funny at the same time because if you read the body language of the people in the room with her while she was talking it was so funny she was addressing the gender inquality in Hollywood and she pressed on how she wants to be an African-American woman soad because whenever they express what they are going through they don't get badged for it and a lot of people were even dropping comments like wait till you realize that there are black women that black women exist aside from what she said on that interview the reaction of the people in the room is even getting people to talk more because it was almost like they don't want to associate thems with what she saying they could not just believe what just came out of mouth I have the interview happened around 2016 but it is back online and people are talking about it so without wasting much time let's just get right into it and let's hear what Julie dery has to say addressing the gender inequality in Hollywood everyone loves a self-proclaimed feminist right nothing worse than being a woman in this business I sometimes wish I was African-American you know because I think at least people don't bash them afterwards when they they say something about a reality which very hard for a woman to to open it I think it's like she doesn't know black women exist even I I think I think it's probably the hardest to be a woman because feminists is probably something that people hate above all the way everyone heard her but her look they see it look at this guy the default setting for Womanhood is historically whiteness while black women have historically been defined simply as female it was a way to distance black women from Womanhood and therefore the gential nature and expectations that would come along with protection associated with Womanhood and this is why many black women do not associate themselves with the term feminist or feminism nothing worse than being a I Wish I Was AfricanAmerican woman in this business I sometimes wish I was African-American you know and this is why I would never consider myself to be a feminist because it does not include women who look like me this woman sat up there and compare her plight to black people which was already egregious right let's say that no African American women exist in a country where black people have been lynched have been enslaved have to overcome all adversity in order to partake in that industry you want to compare your plight to theirs it's ridiculous but African-American women do in fact exist so why are you acting like or talking like they don't and it's this is why I don't believe in that women solidarity thing that's we're talking about this is why that man was going around New York City punching black women in the face identified by a black woman and not arrested and it wasn't until four white women were punched in the face that he was arrested within hours and I'm not saying it was even just the cops I'm saying it's people black women Hispanic women white women everyone coming together when white women are being harmed but if something is happening to black women everyone is hush mouth that's why those two twins got stabed and it's not as viral as people getting punched in the face that's why because the the love the solidarity that we have for them just know it's non-reciprocal and I'm not saying we shouldn't have empathy for all people because I have empathy for everybody under the Earth but what I am saying is when we're engaging in those empathetic acts just know we're engaging in a non-reciprocal relationship because they don't see it for us I sometimes wish I was African-American you know White Women because I think at least people don't bash now white women I need you to have the appropriate amount of acknowledgement and othering of this woman like don't forget that you just got here um and I want this to be a moment where you are learning something not just feeling Superior to someone who's like very ignorant cuz there's no way she would have said that if she knew she was doing that thing right now I'm talking to white women um like know know how much you should be laughing in mixed company you know what I'm saying um I mean it's been fine so far I just want us to consider a couple things one that she felt comfortable saying this in a public place on a microphone and everything is for reasons not cuz she's a big dumb Dum idiot as as it might feel cuz it feels so loud to you now I I need you to remember that black people have been able to hear this for a very long time you would not have heard this the same way a couple years ago had you not been here on Tik Tok listening to people like me and everybody else um so I need you to give it that due right um another thing is I want you to think about had she not said I and giggled about I would rather be black she said African-American which is a whole other thing being that she not even American apparently she's French so like does she mean okay um had she not said that and just said I think it's the hardest to be a woman and then said the rest of her thing or whatever her point was um and I had come on to say that's dehumanizing she means white women she doesn't mean all women right if I'm telling you this is what dehumanization looks like it is being ignored and included at the same time because y'all would have argued with me maybe not all of y'all but like there would have been a lot of argument no she meant all women she meant all women but see we can hear what is not being said and it is also why I suggest if you want to be deemed a safe white woman or something say white say white in front of those generalized nouns and stuff you you be saying about people like whatever the people nouns are say white before your your generalized statement and will be correct I mean she wouldn't have been correct had she said white it would have been ridiculous right to say it is hardest being white woman like it'll it'll it'll help you because I'm going to tell you right now whether you say it or not we hear it just like you can hear it so loud now do you really think six years ago you would have heard her say that and go yeah but a black women exist and I know you think you would but you wouldn't you wouldn't it's very like my mui said Rebecca Larson you need an ego death right there's an ego death that happens and you're like a new person who sees new things so don't forget just remember who you are and then like zoom out and be like whoa this is the kind of thing we can only prevent you can't like once she says it she said it so this is something where I want you out and discussing whiteness so that people don't do things like this you know what I'm saying but that doesn't mean that just cuz someone doesn't say that second part that's in there that's in there chuckle in nothing worse than White Fragility being a woman in this business I sometimes wish I was African-American you know it is crucial to understand what we are talking about when we analyze white tears the kind of distress we are analyzing May well feel genuine but it is neither legitimate nor innocent rather than denoting weakness it signals power though white fragility is triggered by discomfort and anxiety it is born of superiority and entitlement white fragility is not weakness it is a powerful means of white racial control and the protection of white Advantage D'Angelo explores white fragility explicitly in race-based workplace interactions between women but the issue goes further back in history and deeper into the present and it is important to look at the gendered racial Dynamics beyond the professional context these Dynamics iics also shape and taint interactions between white women and women of color in social situations the Catalyst need not be explicitly about race the act of being challenged or politely disagreed with or heaven forbid called out by a woman of color about almost anything at all is enough to raise the defenses and trigger a reaction based on the immediate based not on the immediate situation but on the mechanisms of white fragility more important still is the response from onlookers for it is how they choose to interpret and respond to the conflict unfolding before them that determines the outcome and reinforces the respective behaviors doing dooming them to be replayed again and again so that clip I don't think anything else needs to be said at the end of the day just remember black women do not get to separate their Blackness and their Womanhood they don't I would also like to point out that whether it was a Freudian slip or not there was a distinction made there between Blackness and Womanhood as in somehow Blackness makes somebody less woman there's nothing worse than being a woman in this business I wish I was black girl what American you know SLI King because I think at least people people don't bash them afterwards when they as usual go back and watch my home Girls video it is chef's kiss but when you watch that video make sure you zero in on home SLI King homeboy look like he wish he was anywhere but there I mean if he could just manifest a portal right up under that stool damn it he would I mean every bone in his body is like hea do you not hear yourself do you not hear the clicks of a thousand keyboards going off as you [Music] speak it's like this they don't hear nothing but themselves it's just the ability to just check get and check out on everyone else's experience but your own will never not be well to me what do you guys think My Thoughts about what she said the fact that there's no black person in the room and black people are still on their mind is very very crazy but this is just so funny because the cameraman actually knows how to do his job was zooming in on the reaction of the people around her like these people were so freaking done with what she was saying literally comparing whatever it is that she thinks they are going through to what black women black people have been going through for years is very very crazy almost saying like they have it better it's easier over there it's so difficult to be a woman like talking like they are not real women is freaking crazy she literally said the quiet part out very very loud like the people at the back can hear what this woman is saying especially for white feminism and how they do not they do not consider or see other women as part of them and when they are talking about this feminism thing or feminist thing they only talking about thems like white women she was literally erasing black women from that equation almost sounding like they are nonexistent at all the fact that this woman literally said out loud that black people are not bashed for speaking about their reality is like she maybe she's living at the other part of the world because this cannot be real and how on Earth did that even make sense the people have a question like how are you able to say that how loud in a in public as well and just think you are making sense this person said standing here as an African Aman woman how do you call us out and forget us at the same time given I'm so confused but let me just stay here let me let me just be in the middle another person said black women don't exist in a world woman means white apparently this is the reason why they are so many black people saying they don't consider themselves as feminist they don't like f with the feminism movement or whatever like they don't want to even be called a feminist another person said part of the reason why a lot of African-American women don't identify as feminists because feminists really only mean white women rarely do they include minorities and she she just literally confirmed that just saying that very very loud for the people at the back to hear this person said too many white feminist don't care about women they care about being equal to white men and that's true and if they were they would not be rallying being people of color right another person said imagine when she discover black women and how much harder it must have been to be bought let me hear what you guys think about what she said and let me hear what you think about her literally including and raising black women at the same time in whatever it is that she was saying on that interview make sure you share your thoughts in the comment section and please make sure you smash the Subscribe button before you go as well and I will see you guys in the next one