"How do I forgive, and deal with all this anger, grief and resentment?'

your name correctly Thomas oh yes that's correct okay all right so I'm fine it's a bit late well I'm now you know so different times so so I think uh part of the question you already answered before about Kimberly and rice I'm also dealing with some some anger and some grief and lack of forgiveness you know I have a lot of loss two months ago one and a half months ago my mom passed away and yeah that's a lot of grief but also early in life so there's a lot of things I have to heal inside I can feel that now like I have to invent myself again and and you know even I'm working I also watch your videos on YouTube and do some other work do some meditation but I feel feel a bit lost and you know how to forgive how to feel this self-love and worth like Kimberly also dealing with you know I'm trying I love myself the mirror but it's not that easy as I said yeah okay can you tell me your full name three times please yeah Thomas Thomas Thomas thank you understand one second Thomas let me write this something down no problem [Music] okay so there was just a few things that I was shown for you um particularly let's start with the grief part of it um the grief part of it is there's a one aspect of it why for you is that you're not there are two things around grief that I was shown for you uh one is that you are you have to allow yourself to grieve I'm not seeing that fully for you there's a part of you that wants to move past it fast and that's kind of why it's stuck you kind of get stuck because it's a suppression and anytime we suppress there is no healing that can come from that and there is no transition that can come from that so when we try to when we suppress an emotion what happens is or when we try to run past an emotion you know and not move past it what we're saying it sends a few signals and what you and one of the signals you've been sending to yourself is I'm not enough like this when I'm sad I'm not enough when I'm sad I'm not lovable when I'm grieving I'm not lovable this is the message we send when we try to any type of any type of in your if I'm angry and I'm trying to get past anger um I'm not and I'm not I try to go past it I try to go immediately past it and and not listen um I'm not enough the second thing to understand is that emotions are Messengers they have messages to them every single emotion has a message every single one and a lot of times we cannot receive the message that it has for your development and for your growth um if you don't feel it even grief grief has a message oftentimes of what the next level of your life wants to be because with grief there is a chapter that closes and it's understandable that we feel that you feel the loss of that and that you feel the hurt of that especially when the chapter is closing because there has been someone we love that was that is no longer here in physical right that's very um understandable and this is what's happening for you um but when you feel it when you allow yourself to grieve and when I say allow yourself to grieve I mean when I'm going through grief uh and uh even you know even though I can talk to people on the other side I can communicate and all that I still have lost feelings when they transition right because I don't have the same type of relationship with them anymore they're no longer physical they are non-physical so I can't just go over to my grandmother's house and eat cinnamon rolls anymore right I can talk to her but I can't just go over there and eat cinnamon rolls like I would like I love to do so there's a loss like that right and I have to feel that loss but a part of you that um is almost the word the suffering that I'm seeing in your energy field or with the grief because grief is pain but it doesn't have to be suffering and I see suffering for you and the suffering I see for you with this grief is there's a message that you're carrying that your life has been diminished you have been diminished because of the loss you have been diminished your life has been changed yes your life is different yes but you are not diminished you are not less than you are not unable anymore because of this your life is going to be different but it's not less than and this is a part of the The Grieving that I'm seeing as keeping you stuck um so I really want you to to really work with that that I'm not diminished I'm not less than this hurts this sucks this is painful but I'm gonna be okay eventually I may not see how right now this is a thing that to really to soothe yourself with right a mantra to suit yourself with I may not see how right now but I'm going to be okay and things will get better for me I may not see how I don't have to understand how right now but I will be okay and things will get better for me right the other part of this Thomas is um why the anger why you're not able to move from the anger is because you're not honoring it and this is another thing right so when I talk going back to suppression right so anger can't move out of the body if it's not moved it has to move so you don't have to put it on other people but you have to you have to allow yourself to feel it and say so there's a few things like few ways that you can move this anger one you can write a letter and say everything you want to say in this letter every single thing ever do not hold back do not tote words if you're mad or angry or you want to cuss cuss write it out say everything you need to say you don't have to send this letter right once you write it get it all out get all your feelings out to whoever you need to say it to even if it's to the universe itself or to your loved one who passed or whoever if you whatever the anger is get it out write it on a piece write it down in the letter and then afterwards once you've written a letter you can burn it but you want to get this out this is what's called transference when we write it out when we get it that's called Energy transference she want to get it out of the body another way for you is that I see for you specifically too is you're not used to there's a block there's I won't say a block it's a it's just a small restriction in the throat chakra right here because you're not used to really saying what you want to say and so I would get somewhere where I can be by myself right where you can be alone if you don't live alone go somewhere where you can be alone but if you live alone like in the house in the apartment in the room whatever close the door and say everything you want to say while you're angry scream if you need to scream yell wave your hands like get this you've been very and this is not also by the way Thomas this is not your fault you were taught you were taught this you were taught this is what a human being looks like this is what a good man looks like and I see this particularly in your family system you hold this and you suppress because this is how you were you don't let these things out but this suppression is hurting you suppression always hurts us it never helps never you need to express and what you're going to find when you get this anger out I would even some places have rage rooms you may not have one where you are but you can make one you can go somewhere go get some this is one of my favorite things to do when I have anger that I need to express I get a really cheap plate from a like a dollar store like a 50 Cent I might get five of these plates and I'll go somewhere safe where nobody else is around and I will scream out and I will say when I'm angry I might say how dare you do that to me or how dare you say that to me I'm so mad you left like this you didn't give me a chance and I am screaming in our break plates and by the end of this the anger is released and I feel elevated and what ends up happening when our anger is expressed you begin to get the message from it and a lot of times the message of anger is there's something that you need to honor there may be a boundary that you need to honor and speak up about that some with inset with someone or in a relationship or a circumstance there may be something that you realize that's been very important for you that you haven't been paying a lot of attention to that's been going missing from you from a while that now oh I really need to do this there may be a relationship that doesn't serve you that needs to be completed there may be a relationship that you really want to establish more of but whatever it is it has a message and it does not give its message to you until you allow yourself to stop suppressing it now again anger anger when it is um geared out towards another person it's not always the type of way you want to transfer it but you may need to know there may be need to be some conversations you have with people that may need be uncomfortable that may cause conflict um but you really want to look at what um what the anger first you want to look at expressing it then you will look at what it's trying to tell you but there's a lot of suppression I see for you Thomas there's a lot of suppression and you've been taught to suppress you've been conditioned to suppress as well um and that conditioning is restricting your aura so if you could see your energy the energy of your soul when you express the energy gets bigger it goes out and that's this is what part of what spiritual growth is actually about which people don't really teach but spiritual growth is to to expand your aura in the world right when you suppress it gets restricted it comes in like this so this is what's happening mostly and this the last part of forgiveness I have a YouTube video on forgiveness I want you to watch you can just Google YouTube you can search my name Jerome Bragg's forgiveness um that's going to really really help you because a big part of your forgiveness Journey why you're not able to really forgive yeah it's because you haven't honored the part of you that is angry that's the first part of forgiveness this is the part that's not taught a lot about in forgiveness but the first part of forgiveness is you have to honor the part of you that was hurt the part of you that was upset the part of you that was violated you have to honor that part and let that part have a voice it has to say that's not okay for me it has to say you don't get to do this to me or this really hurt me or this really upset me this way or God I was really look this really disappointed me I thought this was going to be this and that you have to give that voice first because if you don't give it voice first you're suppressing it and you will stay in the anger so you give it voice and then once you give it voice you can hear what it needs and then you can say oh what it actually need is this and then you can when you understand that you begin to shift because you begin to see how this situation was actually brought to you to help you grow in that way it may have sucked it may have been it may not have been okay and it may not be the way that we're going to do this in the future but everything has a gift and a blessing in it everything and now some of them come wrapped in sandpaper it's what this is what this situation has been the Sandpaper you have to in order to get this you had to go through this shitty thing this hurt thing and unwrap it but if you go through the real process of forgiveness you'll get the gift from this I promise you and my video on forgiveness goes very deep I don't have enough time I'd have to spend an hour literally more to give you that um if I went into it here but the video goes in great detail and it will help you tremendously uh Jerome Braggs forgiveness on YouTube but the big message for you is yeah I just want to make up checking my notes to make sure we got everything the big message for you Thomas is no more suppression suppression is illness expression is held you are now learning to your big invitation is to learn how to express your feelings of grief of Anger of everything else and saying what you need to say get that throat chakra open right saying what you need to say in healthy ways in healthy ways right a healthy way what you were taught is the healthy way is to not say it and to and to move on that's the ill way that's the diseased way there are ways to express your anger there are ways to to to feel grief and process through it that are healthy and this is the invitation for you now okay thank you one one thing I will just mention to what you said everything makes sense I was the youngest of two older sisters and all the drama was witnessed to to you know I always was the one to keep the peace while the other one didn't restrain themselves by all the drama so I've been used to that and it makes so much sense that all the suppression you know to survive in the world to be likable you know to make to have peace this is what what you learned was to have peace was to be quiet and to not rock the boat and to not express how I really feel and what has happened is you may have peace in your outer life but you have a war within you correct that's what's happening now inner peace requires expression and love of self and authenticity that's what inner peace comes from my outer piece oftentimes comes from masking and lying and um hurting the self we're not going to hurt ourselves anymore Thomas we're going to heal ourselves and love ourselves and allow ourselves to be whole and you are lovable as your whole self you don't have to suppress yourself to be loved or for other people around you to be okay and also if you haven't already um I think you would love my program on uh self-love Academy you can check it out I'll probably try to put the link here in the chat here in a second so you can check out the details only because it deals with a lot of uh you got to learn a lot in that course about some of the messages we get in our childhood and how they affect us and keep us stuck or ill or unhappy and how to process through that and how to get out of that um so I'll put the the link to that in the chat for anyone any one of you all who are interested in it um but yeah this is a this is much love to you for being here and for this question and thank you and um it's time to be the full express Thomas and I can't wait to see what your life is like when you learn how to do that thank you and I'll be happy to get back to you and tell you please please please thank you so much