Cold Wans with Dylan Stewart

[Music] welcome to cold ones oh man if you're not familiar with what cold ones is cold ones is a five minute cold plunge where I'll have a chat with my guest about a topic or a word then after that is the post plunge warm-up where we have a good conversation I get to know my guest and we've learned things that we didn't already know about them on that note let's get Dylan in here so we got down St as our guest today all right so are you ready for this we back is as ready as it ever be so let's get on with you ready let's go oh man soon as you're ready we can get get popping oh man one of the better reactions so far quite cam I like it I like it I like it so today's topic is going to be about mindfulness when you think about mindfulness what do you think [Music] of being gained other people so I feel like mindfulness is quite a it's got a broad opportunity here because you can be mindful in a lot of ways you can be mind mindful in the way of like you say kindness you can also be mindful in the way that when there's someone making mistakes you're willing to tell them mindfulness is about sort of recognizing what's around you and always having your mind open to New Opportunities or even old opportunities yeah I think mindfulness is a it's a good opportunity for a lot of things and if you're a mindful individual there's almost no negative you can really say about somebody that's mindful because they're willing to listen they're willing to take opportunity and they're willing to to just kind of roll with the shots you think yeah but like in the same way I think mindfulness can also be used in a negative connotation because some people are too almost too Mindful and they're too willing to try and change the way people are because it's not kind of how they want the person to be you know what I mean I think that's what's wrong with the world now days obviously people like judge like for and they not got that much kindness about them so it's just it's such a closed door it should definitely be open to opportunity you know what I mean yeah I absolutely agree with you there to be fair it's like it is so hard nowadays to find like what I would say is a real person like a fully real mindful open book sort of person you know what I mean like that's it's very hard now that's kind of why I like doing cold ones as well it's like a lot of the people that are willing to do stuff like this and they're willing to kind of I mean I know it's scary experience for other people as well it's not just but you meet a lot more like folk that are kind of in the same places you are at this time in life you know what I mean a lot more mindful a lot more willing to have a change willing to get out their comfort zone willing to try and help the world kind of move on from yeah the situation we're in right now which is not exactly like it is it's it's absolutely all over the place man but like I've said in every other episode of this that's ever this has ever came up it's like you can't change everything we're never going to have a perfect world like but all you can do is try yeah just try something new every day that's a task that I do every day just try something new for yourself the dep end you know make yourself better at least try exactly if you're doing something every day at least you're trying and that's you're not wrong that's that's what you need to be aiming for so I mean in know the grand scheme of things I think mindfulness is maybe bypassed by quite a lot of people nowadays but it's it's an important part or important spect to life that you should really partake in you know what I mean on that note do you think like talking about the fact that quite a lot of f miss it you think nowadays there is a lack of kind of mindful people you know what I mean like it's quite a lot cuz it's like at least feel like suicide that as well it's not just not many that people have it it's just like we need more people that are just not like judgmental you know what I mean so the world just needs to be a better place cuz right now I just feel like it's like [ __ ] so I mean in the same way mindfulness also does kind of come down to that think before you speak sort of scenario as well and as you say like a lot of people they don't really think about what they're doing before they do them they just kind of that's okay in some scenarios like if you're wanting to business [ __ ] opportunity and that like obviously take a leap go for it but see when you're thinking about someone else's emotions someone else's feelings you need to really think about what you're saying because people can be going through a lot and you may be going through a lot too but equally people around you going through a similar problem exactly and you need to be mindful be kind to everyone so sometimes kindness can obviously be too kind that can be a problem but backfires on you a bit I'm just like [ __ ] it you know I mean that's what is it live a positive life and the people around you also live positively but I mean on that note you seem like you're getting awfully cold so we're going to head over to the post plunge warm up and we'll get a proper chat with d in a warmer scenario than this so guys that's us into the post plunge warm-up where we get to know our guest so how was that ice plunge for you out ordinary but it was all right that's that's better than a lot of answ usually it was [ __ ] freezing but it was cold yeah don't get me wrong but it's a challenge so I liked it to be fair you done you done really well you were quite calm breathing well one of the better reactions so far to the water so I respect that just like sea water it we absolutely so in the post plune warm-up what we basically do is we let our guests kind of talk through the live give us a bit of an Insight maybe tell us a couple of things that we could all kind of relate to or learn from and that's really all the post plch is about just letting their guest show their colors so fire off gold whatever Direction you want to go and I'll talk to you whenever I feel like it's necessary so I'm going spare time like to make music go to gym obviously I've got two kids I've got a 2-year-old daughter and a seven Monon old Sun so that's a bit hard going but teamwork I me my partner so that's what makes it work other than that just just getting by day by day really yeah the the classic day by day TR it's um it's a a very prominent thing I think in a lot of people's lives nowadays survival the Fest pretty much it absolutely you've got to you got to keep fighting to to keep adapting to keep keep it going but I mean if you've not got much else that you want to kind of just fly out there with I've got a couple questions for you fantastic so we've obviously got he's actually mentioned basically every question but I'm going to get a bit more inth with them so on Soundcloud obviously you create music you kind of have like a a way following of people that obviously follow you doing your Music Creation as well yeah so for I was going to say for SoundCloud and making your money music and creation what was what what really pushed you or drove you to be or do what you're doing just now well I think at the start it was just a hobby but uh I had one of my family members which is a Granddad who was obviously a DJ and before he died he gave me like a Launchpad and just a little bit more information on how to DJ so I think after that happened it's like it's not just a hobby anymore I wanted to learn how to do it that's just that's another reason why like I want to do that so I think the good thing about things like that is like it's like a it's what you would call it like a side sort of a side hustle so like having something like that obviously you learn it get good at it you could go and have an opportunity to make money with it and I think that's what a lot of people need to have like this this cold one's this ice plunging example this is a this is a side hustle for me this isn't like my main thing this is how I make my money it's not but it's somewhere that I like it's it's maybe we'll make money at one point doesn't really matter to me I'm just happy doing what I'm doing at the end of the day probably won't make money you keep and it's like it's it's just an opportunity though it's like the thing is I think for this especially you found like something that a lot of people don't do so it's a cold plunge and then talking to a guest and the the sweetest thing about cold ones is the fact that it's it's not just like you're going from your first couple people to then trying to get like more popular and more popular people you're just bringing in everyday people all the time they lead up to but I'm not even but that's the thing I'm still going to keep it with everyday people still like I want this is what cold one is about it's about letting what people would say is the common folks talk everyone everyone's welcome pretty much exactly and that's what's important about it and that's that's kind of the key area I was going for with cold ones because it's something that a lot of people don't even think about doing like interviewing sort of scenario or just talking to the world you know what I mean it's it's a great opportunity for a lot of people but within that side hustle have you got maybe have you been making money from your music so far is it just literally just getting you kind of I wouldn't say I'm not making money just yet because there's a l few Investments I still need to make for for me to get monetized yeah same with obviously like Tik Tok and like YouTube as well like I'm going to start doing that more often and try to get monetized on those videos as well so like all that like digal Creator content type stuff and music production is like something I'm like you got to learn more of so yeah it's I mean all of all of what that is is learning and having knowledge to then be able to kind of dictate where you're going within this especially social media if you know how that algorithm and stuff works like we were talking about earlier you can make money off it and you can really kind of get in depth with it and all but you need to learn you need to have the knowledge to then get where you want to be within that area I'm going to say too much but just need to pick a n and everything skyrockets from there absolutely you need to pick pick your [ __ ] audience and once you've got your audience then it's it's um it's not easy pickings as such but it's you're in the right you're one absolutely like that's what I was saying to uh saying that to a couple of my PS that were like kind of doing the same sort thing and I was like even if it looks like it's not going anywhere that eventually your efforts will be paid for so you just need to keep fighting that's the same life as well not just like making music or like Tik toks or anything like that it's just like overall that's that's a good lesson to life to be fair if you don't stay consistent you don't keep fighting through event you're not going to get anywhere you need to just keep going even when it gets tough even when it gets seems like it's not changing just keep firing through and that's why people give up on once it gets hard that's it you know I mean that's what I was actually saying to my mom a couple days ago I had I posted a Tik Tok and there was folks sitting in the comments like being negative yeah negative arals and I was like this is where people feel because I use negativity as more of like they've told me what I've done wrong let let's use that as a know like a boost yeah thanks for telling me I've done wrong all right I suppose yeah see if it's like if it's in like a kind of structural way yes absolutely fantastic but they were like on my it was like they said yap yap yap and it was just like stupid things you're just like but you just use it as a driving power to become better you know I mean and it's also any publicity is good publicity so them commenting on my stuff just makes my post look better so it's fine by me but um yeah more click exactly it's like it's it's great because even negativity is in some ways is positive for like social media and stuff so so within that as well so how difficult is it kind of from what you know already within s how difficult is it to kind of put something together to then get it to a point where how much time how much effort does it take to get them song to where you want it to be to then to maybe throw out there for the public endless you need it's like so much hard you obviously get the backing song you need to get the chorus and you need to make sure there's no any like cuts and awkward I'm still learning so some of my music is OB a little bit rubbish but you know we go we only got from there so exactly no you have to you have to have a couple of couple of failed attempts to get to where you want to be you know what I mean like Ben hamsley and all that they weren't exactly they wer from the bottom exactly and that's where you need to be you just need to keep fighing through like we said consistency So within that anyway we'll move away from your SoundCloud stuff because I feel like I'm drying you out of the questions and yeah you're starting to starting to struggle a bit here so the next thing I was going to ask you is obviously your said that you're a father of two kids MH and as of this being the first person to be on is probably what what's your age again sorry 20 22 22 oh God you're you're older than me that's crazy man um so obviously being at the age of 22 he's still a young you're a young adult you know what I mean so it's still quite a young age and plus you said there were two which means you would have had your kids 20 or one of your kids at 20 yes so being a young adult adult adolescent parent nowadays is it's got a common thing I've spoked to a couple of folk and they've said that sometimes that kids maybe brought them at a dark place the kids kind of I don't know saved them in s some sort like but for you what what was what kind of happen how how did this come about like how do you feel was being a father at this I feel great now but at first I was I was scared I was I was like didn't know what to do in my life I was like oh my God and at that point I was always still hanging about like the wrong crowds and everything so everything on top of that I wasn't really ready for it but soon as it started um I got on all right so kids is just it's amazing yeah amazing I wouldn't change it before the world all to be fair I've I've always said that I want kids but I think for me especially I'm going to always wait until I'm now ready because I'm at a place now where I know I'm going having been young so much better though yeah no absolutely you got your whole life ahead you once they're at school my twoy olds already at Nursery then once they both go to school it's like I can do what I want to life yeah Fair same with my partner as well so know absolutely development as a family and that's that's the most sweet of things so like was was was your kids planned or was it just like come by day by happen by or what was what was it was locked down pretty it was locked down it was locked down to years that's CRA man I one of them was then both I feel like theying but you know my part makes different don't want to deep into it then you don't have to man that's absolutely I just thought I'd ask because sometimes in a lot of cases it's not usually planned and in it ends up being a happy accident so accidents always happen but um yeah I mean within that when you go to the gym stuff as well like how how do you feel that the kind of gym Society within life is now like cuz I've asked this a lot of people and a lot of people have different like mixed up opinions on it I would say it's all right like me like I struggle to put on the weight so it's a bit of a problem for me but I feel like you just need a few people who are all positive in the gym Community absolutely like yourself like you're you're massive wouldn't say massive but bigger than me so but we'll see Gem's like any other like hobby know what I mean so it's a hobby that becomes a lifestyle yeah lifestyle absolutely that's what I was looking for I'm happy you took that word out my mouth man it's a good is a good thing to think about to be fair because it's it keeps a good mental state as well so you see like if you're angry one day like I'll just go to gy yeah take mind off it or just go for a run or Co punch like what you do so it's like a gy some ways can help people or it can know not help yeah you know what I mean I think I think a lot of a lot of cases people go in with a very high maybe anxiety level at the gym as well and that sometimes brings people down a couple pegs which is it's it's a shame because from my honest opinion I remember when I first went to the gym and I was quite an anxious kind of yeah is a bit scary but see once you get in you kind of get to it you realize that every single person there is there to do their own thing and there everyone there's basic most people are positive you're not going to can't say everybody is cuz there there'll be a couple of folk in there you'll be like okay yeah he's a bit of a I don't know FR Loop bit of a b a dick like but there's always people people like that there's people like that in you're probably day I just don't judge anyone you know what I mean cuz I know how it felt to be judged so I didn't really judge anyone I just but you're doing your own life you know what I mean get on you're proud of you there's no time for judgment you know what I mean know I'm not I've not got time in my life now to even life's so short for it now like you know what I mean that's what you need more people that are like caring cuz like there's too many people like young people dying so it's you can't actually yeah I can't stop myself there you can't too much I know to be fair you got a point like there's there's a lot more suicides there's a lot more death by drug use and like all this stuff going about and it kind of it gets overruled by daily life because it's it just get sweeped under the carpet because for a lot of people it's easier easier for them to forget than to actually face it head on and I think I think drug plays a big part in it as well see once you get hooked on that it's really hard to get I'm speak from experience as well so it's like it's really hard to get off it so but once you got the help there's nothing wrong getting help and see like actually got help you film so much better yeah absolutely agree like once you get out of that place you get that head space me like I've going to Raves like I've never been ra I've only been a few but like not you see people that go for Raves like by means if you want to take drugs you not got responsibilities kids by means SCH I'm I'm not going to drive nothing like I've been done that it's just it's not good yeah it's not a good place to be especially when it's like the gym it becomes a lifestyle and that's that's when it's a problem I just it make sure make sure I get first M but oh let's go you know what I mean then you get hooked on it and the more and more you take it the more and more your body is going down and down and down to the point you wake up one morning and you're not there yeah exactly I mean so and a lot of drugs as well nowadays it's like you don't really know what's in them like I mean I mean it's always been kind of like that but nowadays I think it's even worse than drugs are everywhere there never going to go away drugs are every yeah no absolutely I completely agree with that like you you can't keep a hold of something that's so out of Within government or even our hands you know what I mean it's like but it's look at dark web it's easy accessible in the dark web with browser andu just it's like drugs are always going to be a thing it's just you know it's unfortunate for the people who I think it's less about stopping it and more about teaching about it I think that's I think that's I spoke about this on my episode two weeks ago and I would love the opportunity to maybe go to like even my old school and stuff and speak to like the folk at like that prime age I think when you get until maybe third fourth years where you're your prime age for probably falling into like that trap yeah because that's that's that's kind of when I F into it as well so it's like it's more about teaching them and telling them the dangers than actually telling them not to do it because you can't force someone not to do something but if you can at least tell them how how it's going to go what can happen you're at least trying you know what I mean and I think that's the only way you can really conquer when we were younger and stuff it was like oh like we'll just try it we're young yeah but it'll bite in the ass when you get older so it's just especially if you didn't get of it as well like it's all good and said doing it for like a a bit of your youth but see if you're stuck after that point and you see people like you kicking about in that you and you know that they've clearly been dragged down into the deep end very early in their life and they've just never got over it and that's it's a shame to be honest because there's there is help out there but it's not sometimes help that they can access and stuff you know I mean it's it's a crazy thing I don't even know how we spiraled into conversation cold on it it is cold on it's just about talking and that's honestly the most valuable thing about this like like I said last week as well if any has ever want to do it just give me a mail big mbang just get a few people in start getting I actually did think about that once I did think a mukbang would be quite funny just sitting here cold W episode 6 or sh just couple of boys sitting eating SC talking about [ __ ] life you know what I mean it's like it's all stuff that needs to be heard as well like it's like I think the most powerful thing about stuff like this is the fact that you're just watching that's the way I think feel as well like people judging people and just people take their own lives that really hits a spot I hate people like trying to commit Sude like when is it's I've been at a place in my life I spoke about this obviously in my epis where like you do not want to be here and honestly it's the most horrible feeling ever like when you when you think about like think back to it and you just like you were so like in a place where you're just so empty that you willing to take your life it's like how do you even get to that point and you there can be a variety of reasons why someone can be feeling can be like drugs be anything like what happened in your life so much exactly and it opens an opportunity for you to be so low in your life that you're willing to take your own life it's it's a crazy crazy thing suicide and honestly being in like that kind of scenario in my life at point it does you do it's it's a weird feeling because you just feel nothing and it's like I don't know my pal said that he kind of felt like he wanted just it all to stop and that's a good opport like a good thing to think about is it does get to a point where you just wanted to stop you just want like your head just to be yeah and that's that's what he said and I said more of it being like I just got so fed up with who I was and who I was like I wasn't a good person so I just decided that that was it but obviously we both came out the other end fine and we're both much better people now we're much happier much that's why just trying to keep positive like Tik Tok making music you wear cold ones gems like just be positive more than like that's that's that's what the message needs to go out to everyone though like just be positive I know to be fair like I think I spoke about that in my path not too long ago as well I said that the only thing that you can like the only way that you can you should be interacting with people is by letting them leave happier than they came to you because you should always be kind always positive and always giving the right the right words out to people because that's the most important thing end you know what I mean because like I say in the ice bath there you don't know what anyone's going through so if you go up to them with your mood and you then take them down pegs that's you just you are just not helping each other you know what I mean so you need to try and always be positive always pass over a good word always be kind to people and that's the important thing but I mean I don't think I've got too much else to speak to you about with the actual interview sort of portion of this so we're going to move over to the Instagram B where I'm going to pick a photo of your Instagram and you're going to tell me what you think about it so that's us into the Instagram rewind portion but in this case it's going to be Facebook rewind because DL doesn't have any posts on his Instagram so we've got this picture here what does it make you feel like what's your emotions what kind of comes to head the minute you you see these fos un that's well I'll say happiness cuz you know as a family they you see in that photo it's just family you know kids well one of the kids so you know happiness just you know positivity really in the photo it's always nice having a we family photo on your on your social media but yeah I mean that's a nice foot it's just a shame your son's not CU that would be a perfect he was he wasn't born yet so yeah oh you need to get one of that one him definitely come back cold ones again last year again I mean this little part this little section it's never going to be that long unless there's multiple photos to talk about and stuff but this this photo it's a lovely photo family and it's all about respect in life you know what I mean family is first that but yeah well that's all we're going to say about the phot mhm so there's always one question I'll always ask on a cold W's episode and that question is if you had one thing or one maybe quote or anything in that sort of sense that you would like to say to every single person maybe help them get past their day maybe give them a little thing to think about be a bit mindful about what would you say just keep doing you and just don't let your shadows haunt you pretty much you I mean so just keep doing you and don't let anyone judge you that's all I can say so absolutely just be your own person don't copy other people just be your own person and just say it how it is that's it yeah mean don't be shy don't be shy be a confident individual and float your boat man just like we're doing music production and just this so digital creting exactly just go for it man like don't let anybody else take you down pegs just be you but I mean I would usually do the was going to do a spin of the wheel of fit or whatever it was that I called it last week but I've not got everything together yet so I'm not feeling like getting it all out and being this Scrappy thing I want it to be nice so I'm I'm gon to miss it this week sadly or maybe next week as well I'm gonna have to work out and make sure I get it perfect because that's how I want it to be but except from that that'll be the closing of the second episode of season two for cold WIS it was an absolute pleasure having you on my man for you too thank you very much for coming on and thanks for having me as well absolutely man um great experience it's what it's all about we talk it's human and it's there to help use but I mean on that note I mean I suppose we'll just be I'll see you tomorrow see you tomorrow guys [Music]