if I use this phrase Just Close Your Eyes for a moment and then think about what you see the boy next door mhm for most of America what does that look like yeah right it's a the boy next door four words speak volumes about the age the look the character of who we're talking about you're right about that yep yep what four words would immediately let you know about who I am how you really feel that's a great question it's very frustrating that's a great question cuz to your point you to exactly to your point Uncle L it is I know who I am I was raised to have pride I mean I could go on and on about who I am right but and and and who I was born as not just who I became it wasn't like some process of Enlightenment like this is not have been a process of discovery for me all of us who have become the first you know part of the challenge is that people have their their boxes about who people are it's in their mind they have this set of boxes and they're trying to figure out which one do you fit into MH right but the the number of boxes they have is limited to whatever they've seen before usually MH right and we're asking them to see something that they've not seen before and then figure out where that where to put that