I think for me it's kind of been an interesting Dynamic to have had a career I've built a platform for myself before I met Jared and just like the conversation that kind of Switched after I started dating him where like I now became not just Christian Harper but I'm now just Jared goff's girlfriend or fiance and like my name just like leaves the headline and suddenly it's being looked at like I'm getting things because of him whereas I've been like on this path for so many years and it's it it was kind of not hurtful but it's one of those things where it's like wait wait I was working at this before this like it's been a long process and I think I think we can all relate to that where you sometimes feel like oh I'm just Blah Blah's wife or fiance