all the advertising you see all of it's like do this to make yourself happy buy this and make yourself happy you know all of it's about me me me if if we would just listen even to how many times we say I I me me I don't know that we could get through a day oh no yeah without saying it I think I want I feel I I yeah so why do we have to talk about this can we not yeah I mean she's not going to let us not no but you've talked about how you you think this is one of your most important messages why why do we have to deal with this why can't we just make ourselves happy and have it work well we have all these promises in the Bible that he will take care of us yeah but he won't do it if we're in his way trying to do it ourselves