do you think it's possible for someone in a relationship when they're both not well known where one can all of a sudden get a lot of notoriety or fame or success or an abundance of something and the other one hasn't grown there can they still make it work do you think or it's very hard it's very hard especially well I mean there there's you know degrees of success right um it's very hard in in people who are you know outward facing that you see that are famous or whatever because there's no secrecy anymore you can't hold back you can't wish now not to be so exposed you you you can't anymore so everything eats away a little bit at a time if you don't have rer stability then it'll eat it can eat away at you there's no doubt about it we're not made of steel you know and uh and there's no much of like reinforcing of that person of like oh it's everything's good if they're not feeling good about themselves exactly and can undermine self-esteem undermine sense of self um and that's that's just not good I mean everybody needs to find a purpose everybody needs to find their Center and uh and sometimes you can get off balance you know when you're with a partner that you know is so celebrated and with that comes money mhm and money is a a very tough okay so we the whole idea of money has so much power just the idea of money creates power so then you know having a lot of money and gaining money is really sounds really good and back in the day I remember thinking well we'll just put everything in a pot and I was so young I mean I was 23 or something and kind of share it together and yeah just throw it in the pot you know we'll do this we'll do this and it'll all be cool but when you're bringing 95% and they're bringing 5% no and you buy a house and they don't own it or they own part of it but not enough and it it it's it's I swear it just it's what is it erodes really erodes some of your your relationship well you can start out feeling very optimistic but if you don't if you can if you realize it you always have to remember what it is you love about that person what is it you couldn't live without with that person in order to nurture your choice because that's the the most important thing and then if that is going to eat you up and get under your skin male or female females of course it's easier because girls are not supposed to make all the money and they're not supposed to be powerful and they're not supposed to be the decision makers and they're not supposed to and it that goes from the cave days okay this is very cavey it's very cavey some boys can't you know always help themselves and um and we get that so when a woman has all the money and a woman has all the ideas and has all the power and makes the decisions and so forth there's a little part of the woman that feels like she'd love to have a man taking care of her wow no matter how rich they are what it I mean this is powerful what what advice do you have for women now who want to make their own money who want to have their own successful career who want to share their art in the world and be celebrated for it um what advice do you have for them about finding a male partner and what they should be looking for to have a healthy successful relationship as well as career yeah well that's very subjective because you have to find someone that's a friend first of all that can be a friend and also someone you have to know yourself to know that if you're falling sexy with somebody or you want to fool around you want to have fun um that can happen with no money at the table okay it's really important to to look at yourself what your needs are and show and show boundaries for yourself because if you don't have boundaries and know that this will never work and know that it will never work I don't want to feel guilty when I come home and I bring a paycheck that's more than he is that way or you figure out when you're together as parents and the husband isn't doing quite as well and the wife is flourishing um they have they exchange jobs and they're they're pretty good at it you know it's it's really really nice when you have that it's rare but it does happen and then you have such value for each other in in so many ways that you know but it is very subjective so remember when you you know get attracted to somebody and he happens to be you know something wonderful but not necessarily really making anywhere near the money you are just take a look at it make sure that you don't jump into something before you realize you'll resent later have you I mean have you seen anyone in the industry I guess Hollywood industry who where women who have had made more money than the men they're with be successful in relationships as well long term have you have you seen that well I'm you know I'm not a what is it in other words I know some people in the industry let's put it that way but I'm not you know somebody who knows everybody right okay and we see people who get married again and they go back you know and they get together and I think it's very nice because the ones when you get married again that's what Liz and Richard did you know uh you know that so when we Richard Burton they got married for a second time you know so there's always something there you know there's some electricity there that so that they can't live without um but I really I really haven't the people that I do know actually are do pretty well uh with that mhm pretty well pretty well with that um but but there's artist and you know there's all kinds of things that you love about that person and you you want to stay there so that's what I would suggest my issue that I never I mean I had men in my life um but never for marriage and I knew that really You' be seeing them or dating them but you were like I date them or they're wonderful wonderful fun you know great I mean really and uh but they were not family