one Tennessee Mama four is getting real when it comes to volunteering for school or Sports as a parent coining herself the venmo mom ABC's Ariel rasf explains she's the straight talking Tennessee mom whose minute long Tik Tok video is going viral I don't want to be on PTO PTA room mom te- Mom I don't want to do any of that Casey Neil embracing the idea of doing less saying no to volunteering and Co a new phrase Veno mom and I'm like no I know they're judging me because I'm not raising my hand I don't want to come in I don't want to set up if the room mom needs money for everyone to participate fine I'll themo money right over and this morning Neil speaking to GMA telling us between work and four kids ages 3 to 11 she's already at capacity encouraging other parents to be honest when it's all just too much I thought it was me that felt like I wasn't doing a good enough job as a parent because I just am so burnt out from Sports and homework and to and from and work and um but it was nice to know that like there's a whole mom Community that's like girl I got you this week Surgeon General VC Murthy issuing an advisory warning that parents especially in the age of social media are facing pressure and the weight of unrealistic expectations with 48% reporting most days their stress is completely overwhelming right now at the beginning of the school year we carry this incredible weight of trying to be everything to everyone and showing up as that perfect parent but yet what we really have to do is just step back and look at what best works for our family unit Neil says it's not about throwing money at a problem but instead setting limits those moms that are making that happen and taking other moms cash and making sure that team bonding is fun and um classroom parties like that is a part of my kids childhood and I appreciate that and I will be right there in the corner at the class party and if you need me to VMO you let me know