Father of the bride not paying for daughters wedding Reddit story fathers POV

my daughter just found out that I'm not paying for her wedding anymore now I raised her to be an independent thinker and she's going to come at me with some brainwash bull crap all right and I don't know where I went wrong so let me tell you what happened one afternoon I'm listening to my daughter discuss wedding plans with her mother not because I wanted to but because they were talking in the kitchen and I needed another beer I hear my wife explain to my daughter that she's going to try not to cry when I walk her down the aisle my daughter stopped her dead in her tracks stating that she wasn't property my wife did her best to hide her Devastation one of the most important roles of my life taken away from me now I'm going to tell you this is a real smack in the face with everything that we've done for her uh coupled with the fact that we've never treated her like she's property a couple days later I'm out blowing off some steam with my buddies and you know what Kevin says you know she's so independent why don't you just make her pay for it herself he started to apologize and I was like no you know what that's a really good idea it it's not about making her do what I want her to do okay it's about making her realize the effect that she has on the people around her and how her selfishness if your selfishness is going to cause pain then it's going to have to limit my generosity this might make me the [ __ ] but I'm okay with that I I just hope she comes around all right and thinks it through okay Traditions are important