yeah I think we kind of got thr Into the Fire together and I think that's what's helped us you know do so well in the life that we are is that we did it all together and so and he is a lot better at it than I am maybe because his dad played professional sports so I think he was arounded and he understood it a lot more than I did so having him to help me get through it has helped a lot cuz he's very good at you know managing those things and blocking people out and doing all that doing all that type of stuff so having him beside me kind of guiding me and coaching me through it has helped a ton um and I think that's kind of how we've gotten to where we're at now what's been like a piece of advice that's helped you manage all of it I think the main thing that you know he always told me is like stop caring about what people think especially the people that don't even know you and so I think social media used to get to me a lot and now it's just like honestly I don't give a fck what people have to say about me more and I think he's helped me get to that point to where you know I'm strong in who I am I'm confident in who I am I'm confident in mine and his relationship and I'm confident in our life so why does you know what other people say have to matter at all