after four years of marriage and creating hundreds of Tik Tok videos together Nashville comedian da Hayes and her wife online fashion influencer Mandy Kai announced their separation online on Friday August 30th we are both deeply saddened to share that we have decided to go our separate ways the couple wrote in a brief statement shared on their Tik Tok and Instagram accounts Hayes 31 gained popularity with her comedic videos often poking fun at her Southern upbringing in Alabama amassing more than 3 million Tik Tok followers earlier this year she began touring comedy clubs and theaters across the South and Midwest her videos frequently featured her wife with the two playfully portraying exaggerated versions of themselves Hayes as the more down-to-earth redneck type and Kai as the girly girl Californian in their joint statement the couple explained this decision did not come easy as we both have so much love and respect for one another but it is truly what is best for both of us Hayes did not immediately respond to a request for comment from The Tennessean the couple both former college softball standouts first connected through private Instagram messages in 2016 fans on social media expressed shock at the news with many hoping it was a prank reading the whole time waiting for the gacha sentence Tik Tok user Dean M commented another fan Mama daughter talk posted the way I yelled at my phone