I wrote a book rethinking and it was basically about our sexual culture but this is one thing that I spent a lot of time writing about in the book this idea that the feminist movement shifted over time in a way that I don't necessarily think was positive original feminists were what they said really was that you know women are important women should be respected as much as men are respected women should be allowed to partake in society as much as men are but women should also be respected as women for being themselves slowly over the years we've shifted through this Playboy to girl boss culture where it's like okay well men have a lot of power and in fact honestly kind of the worst men tend to have a lot of power to be a successful woman just be more like the most powerful man who's often like the worst kind of men so it's like women be a girl boss which is still a boss instead of being a Playboy you're just a play girl yeah you're just like picking up the same things instead of being respected for like your actual self and that hasn't been healthy for women either