if we can forgive someone or something what we are doing it's not for that individual or that situation what we doing it we're doing it for ourselves it's more than just a word and it's more than just a feeling it's it's it's deeper than that it's it it can set you up mentally to uh perceive your uh your tests or your hardships um in a more grateful way and and and instead of Leaning into the excuse es which was very easy to do and it's easy for everyone to grab on to the excuses but when you face things with gratitude and look for the growth and the journey it's you got to you know it helps keep that open I got to a point where I was like how far can I take it