is there a way to avoid divorce completely divorce is inevitable if that is something that is attractive to you or you don't care about the paper but if moving on with someone else legally is not important to you then no you can stay married and be in this legal posture of a marriage without the intent of truly being married to someone also um health insurance is a big reason that older couples will stay legally married so that other person does not have to worry about the burdensome cost of getting Private health insurance when they may have pre existing conditions also for the family a lot of couples will stay married because they've gotten older and they don't want their children to know that they're divorced and they live separate lives so that's another benefit trying to preserve a family image for some people another reason that I see older wealthier clients they married is because they don't want to go through the process of dividing retirements Investments and assets ultimately you have to ask yourself what are your personal Financial and Professional goals within life ultimately you have to do what's best for you in the end