downloading the fantasy football app sleeper on my phone for context sleeper is a fantasy football platform I've run a league with my high school and college friends for 15 plus years and my wife is aware and okay with it this morning my wife was upset and crying I was alarmed and asked what was wrong she said I saw the app in the messages I know you're cheating on me she noticed a lot of notifications on my phone and saw a message from someone named Riley on an app called sleeper that said God you're so sexy and my name I love you Riley is a friend from our wedding lives far away and was just joking about a photo I sent him she didn't recognize the name because Riley goes by a nickname apparently she thought sleeper might be a hookup app after seeing it in her friend group chat where someone mistakenly thought it was similar to grinder she didn't check the app store or ask me about it she's been embarrassed and I'm not upset I understand her mistake and hope it serves as a reminder for better communication the situation got more complicated because some other women in her chat started checking their partner's phones most found nothing but one found grinder disguised as a calculator on her fiance's phone now there's drama and she's coming to stay with us while he moves out all because of a fantasy football app