Ben Affleck's past quotes on failed relationships have resurfaced amid his divorce from Jennifer Lopez two weeks after JLo filed to end her marriage to her husband of two years a decades old interview has popped up again in which the actor discussed failed romances and how he's often to blame in 1999 Ben spoke with Playboy magazine and said in the interview that he felt it was quote justifiable that his exes were usually pissed off at him Ben elaborated it's not like I was a womanizer or physically abusive or psychologically abusive or whatever it's just that these relationships never end well I think what happens is I end up wanting to be out of the relationship during the course of the relationship if you get dissatisfied and unhappy and don't say something if you don't deal with it right then it just festers and stays there the then 27-year-old continued so instead of saying look don't do that please don't act this way I go along with it until I just don't want to be in the relationship at all then I create some incident or do something or just don't call and then she's pissed however Ben said at the time he knew his ex-girlfriends weren't responsible for his actions telling the mag I can't necessarily blame her at that point I've developed such a passive aggressive rage that I have no sympathy and tell her well of course I didn't call you if you weren't such a nagging shrewish Harpy I'd call you he concluded by looking towards the future adding that hopefully is something I'm growing out of 3 years after the interview Ben began his first relationship with Jennifer in which the two were engaged before their breakup looking back at that time Jennifer explained in her February documentary the greatest love story never told that it was quote the massive amount of scrutiny around our private life that led to their initial split JLo recall Ben and I we broke up 3 days before our wedding we had a big wedding planned 14 ushers and bridesmaides and 3 days before we just crumbled under the pressure [Music]