she would change her pads no in the room and then just put them in like the general trash can Wait Wait y'all would y'all share the room yes she would just leave the essence of like no you know how you like wrap it in like toilet paper or something like oh let me hide it like she wouldn't even do that just like with the regular little tiny little piece of tape that you love it here you love it here you're upset not you coming back to watch another episode thank y'all for being here um we are well into season 2 and I'm very excited about our next guest this is a guest that y'all y'all really act like we're we're twinning like there were many of you that that dm' me saying like yo was this you on TV it's like no girl I'm not booked like that um because my next guest is you may have seen her in the hit show on BET 20s you may have seen her in something from Tiffany's on Amazon she has been warming our hearts on stages as well standup comedian just an allaround Entertainer truly and she's definitely someone that I see myself in in her characters as well Civil War okay shoot shoot bang bang shoot them up type movies she's a multi-hyphenate she's a multifaceted creative and I'm very very excited to have her on the show y'all it's JoJo Gibbs hey y'all we are in a new space today we are in the be Studios podcast studio for a little bit of a cozy Vibe and we're here with JoJo Gibbs this your camera right here hey people hi hey um this is a this is a make good episode yeah yeah yeah you do you want to disclose um well it was a a plethora of fas that happened that day on it a lot going on that day yeah you you too yeah but anyway we're back here today to re-shoot and I'm happy to see you any way shape form I can you know it's always a pleasure yeah how have you been it's been like a month and a half two months I know right it's been a minute I am blessed you know feeling good feeling great I am coming to this realization of um this you know like I think when I saw you I was in a little bit of a funk as well and that's another reason why I kind of want to reshoot it cuz I was just like I wasn't my best you know self um but now you know a lot of things have been cleared up and cleared out and good feeling great have you like done anything like you went you did like a silent Retreat ooh got into Pilates I wonder if I could do a silent Retreat I can't I need to get it off my chest that mean you you can't talk at all at no I think so I think like I'm in my head enough why would I want to go somewhere and be more in my head that that that's a scam but I can see it also being kind of like freeing and like liberating to just cuz there are certain days where I don't go nowhere in my house and I don't speak at all to anyone like I barely open my mouth and it's kind of great you don't speak I still talk to myself I'll still have Audible conversations you don't do that I don't do that it' be you seen that movie uh inside out yes it'd be them them [ __ ] in my head it' be that too you don't say nothing out loud you talk out loud you got to talk to yourself out loud no I do be talking to myself exactly I'd be like J girl like you dumb [ __ ] yeah yeah yeah yeah I've been a couple dumb [ __ ] um it happens to the best of us yeah I told myself I was going to have a dumb [ __ ] summer so far you been stump as hell you said [ __ ] I've been the dumbest just like I really want to be that girl that just like and I think I am in my like heart of hearts like love a girl go with the flow go what feels right like shut up brain I'm following my heart yeah and then I follow my heart and then it leads me to Darkness man I don't even know what to do cuz it's like yeah you want to it's like us being thoughts is just a different type of situation it just ain't the same you know like straight people can be thoughts way easier I believe yeah um that's like their default sex yeah like you know women can easily find men to hook up with and then women's expectations of men I think are a little lower too so men can easily kind of move around a little bit more too without women getting emotionally attached because they kind of in my opinion sometimes have this expectation that a man going to be a man type you know yeah sometimes especially if y'all already had a verbal agreement that ain't nothing you know but with us like you can still have a talk and y'all still end up living together exactly like I went okay I'm not dating I'm not gonna say that but I've i' I've done like the free trial of dating a little bit what you mean meaning like I went into it I'm not committing to it I'm just seeing seeing if you like seeing how you feel about it yeah okay cuz I'mma cancel do they and I'm be out are y'all on the same page about that or well there's no one in particular that's necessarily like the center of the dating but it's more so just like I haven't dated in like 10 years for real cuz I was in two serious relationships back to back yeah and I thought that when I became single that I was going to I thought that I was going to stop learning about myself cuz I didn't have like that person there to kind of reflect certain habits back to me or like tell me about myself and so I was like it's going to be me talking to me all day um but n you've been learning more about yourself baby yeah rejection I've been learning about how I do with that I've been learning about my communication style I've been seeing how [ __ ] avoidant I am I've been like wow I'm not trash but like I feel like a lot of people are going through this right now it's something in the atmosphere it ain't just you like I've been going through it as well like I had two relationships back to back and maybe your similarly the second one felt very smooth and just when did y'all get together me and my most recent act yeah uh 2019 okay 2019 and the 2019 man things were so much better before Co oh my God I'm going go hold you though I kind of I mean I wish all those people didn't die and that like Trump wasn't you know of course doing the most but was kind of yeah we was dancing the made stallion I was seven we was watching Tiger King it was fun I li was very that it was like like you were like one as a nation yeah it was it was kind of a good time key um and then you there was no stress about making money or bills cuz nobody was making money exctly you know what I'm saying like I was just I was still paying bills which I realized I probably should have stopped paying my rent cuz a lot of people had their rent paid by the government but I would have been stressed the whole time so I went ahead and paid it but yeah everybody was just like we on one Accord you know stay in the house stay safe but we still had social media to communicate which just made it amazing you know did when everybody got that check you just seeing what everybody was like spending it on and it was crazy because it was like I love how unserious America is but at the same time like we be doing too much yeah because on one hand you had people being like this is not enough money I got I got whole kids and I need simac and then you had other people like doing she and ho and I'm like this is crazy it's it's range it's big range around here but yeah that was those was a good times bad times for some yeah good times for some well you as an actor like how did that impacts that for you I was hm are you working on anything that like covid had stopped well everything because 20s well well we had just literally finished doing the um doing the media tour for 20s like literally we finished our last stop and then the world got shut down so we barely escaped you know so but after that it was kind of like okay you know we're shut down but I need to get back to work I want to get back to work um when is that going to happen right and so that was the biggest thing for me but like I said because it was like a unified We All in This Together unified broke yes I was like I was like well I'm not the only one you know so it was a little piece in that um I probably had you know I'm probably more anxious to get back to work since this strike is happened you know cuz it's it just feels like it feels like postco lowkey like like building a snowman you know what I'm saying like the hardest part is getting that first little ball started and then it's like once you start pushing it it just builds that's kind of how I felt after Co like once I got the first movie fresh and things kind of started flowing in yeah but um that's why I'm so hyped about getting back to work now cuz I'm like things will just start to flow in you know um but I'm like God want me to learn something right now and I'm going figure that out and it's probably similar to what you should probably be learning too while you going through the stuff you dealing with okay I think mine is patience patience I need I need patience so do I I just be wanting stuff like now right now right now yeah I feel the void the thing I need right now is it material stuff or is it achievements or is it what is it I'm just a girl bro and like I just like I just want like a little hug I feel you I just be wanting like to to just feel nice tired of making myself feel nice all the goddamn time tired of taking myself out for solo wine go read a book in a book like a library it's like it's giving enrichment and I appreciate it but like like that's a special talent to have though to be able to live with yourself and love yourself cuz I I I learned a long time ago you're the only person guaranteed to be with yourself for your entire life right so even when you do find that love they're still not guaranteed to be with you your entire life for whatever reason and neither are you to them you know so you got to be cool with being by yourself cuz that might happen either way even if it ain't no breakup or something like that it could just be you know old age that [Music] that feur Studios is not only the official sponsor of the Jade fox show but it is women founded and operated which means it always smells good there's always toilet paper and there's always soap in the bathrooms you know how we do here you'll find creative spaces where you can shoot your content connect with like-minded folks and as the name suggests be true need somewhere to host your next event BTS is just one click away so click the link in the description to learn more about B Studios and for booking and remember the B true motto feel inspired get creative and be true on with the show okay so have you like gotten Clarity on what your lesson is right now I think I need to focus on me right now um some M walking hard as hell um I'm open to and receptive to dating or love and all that stuff and you know I love it like I like you said like I be wantan a hug too like I be like you want a closeness and a and a safeness you know with someone um I do think though that I have not become fully what I seeking someone you know and that's what I feel like I need to work on is you know a part of me was seeking someone to help me become better you know what I'm saying I think I realize and I realize like yeah that's not how you do it you know um you should be your own force and then two forces come together you know and I am but I just have like patience maybe I could work on that you're an Aries I am why you say that why you say that cuz I just be knowing bro be KN why you say know Aries don't have no patience I'm Aries Rising ah okay okay yeah I'm all fire I'm an Aries Leo Leo so same shut the [ __ ] up hold up no you're a Leo Leo Aries yeah yeah that's crazy wait that's my that's literally my ex's chart Aries Leo Leo yes that is so crazy that's insane that is insane that you was dating twin flame twin FL that's wild that's crazy that you I I don't know I've been wondering if I should get another fire sign that's a whole I went through a phase of that too then I'm like it's a key what you mean it's just like because I don't I don't understand how you can be and granted like whatever I can be a goofy [ __ ] but I don't understand how people can be in relationships of people that they don't like laugh hysterically with yeah like that should be like the default set know yeah and I feel like with another fire sign it's very that it's jokes it's energy it's it's it's no absolutely you know like if I if I tell a joke or say something you know and the person doesn't get it I'm like okay wrap it up wrap it up not completely but you know you can just feel the energy like if you have somebody that y'all just have that chemistry you know and um cuz I'mma make a joke you know and either you going to laugh or you going to cry I don't know probably not cry I never I'm never mean with it but some people are just not I don't know what they think let me not say what they doing yeah I just know the reaction be like I be like okay I had an ex who who told me she was like I don't like she was like I don't like you making jokes about me but it was like harmless stuff yeah yeah yeah like I'm dating you like come on now I like you yeah um but she was like I don't like you doing that and I was like that should have really been the sign that should have been the sign yeah but I was like no let me press through no cuz all my exes I I make jokes all the time and they will crack up more than I even anticipate that they will sometimes like it's good mature right all down right like it's just good energy you know what I'm saying like who wants to be around I've dated someone that I felt like I had to walk on eggshells around like not around but with you know like I I I don't know if what I say next will set you off yeah or make you laugh will it be a trigger you know what I'm saying like you know it's like we we not this not going to work yeah this not going to work cuz I say a lot of things off the cuff that you know and you can't judge me for it can't judge you for it you can't judge me for it's a safe space it's the safe space oh man I was about to tell the story never mind you tell the story we got time no no no no that's for another [Laughter] time that's for another time um but no like yeah you think that you know your partner is someone that you can be like these are my real thoughts you know um and yeah like you should be able to make jokes and like come up with like different perspectives and stuff like that cuz otherwise why are we here that what are we doing what we doing it's seven billion people in the world I know we can shake this up and find a better match exctly we can do exactly you know yeah there was there was um my ex is Filipino and so it's like if you thought that I was going to be in a fiveyear relationship with you and I wasn't going to make no like Rush Hour jokes yeah he thought I was not going to make no like like let's I just called the rest like come on now like why you making R shower let's be let's me [ __ ] for yo dead ass though you got to just be go with the float and I'mma laugh at myself too you know like my ex was a we was cracking up all day like to this day we still talk like and we make jokes you know like sh ask me a question I'll tell her the truth she tells me the truth like it's not I don't know somebody that's too sensitive it just we too fiery I guess the whole thing it's like you dimming my light you dimming it a little bit a little bit a little bit we all right come on now chill out please it ain't even that deep like chill out n it's it's you know everybody ain't me for everybody that's what I'm thinking too like also just cuz you you physically attracted to somebody though mean you just be your head like this could all be so good if you were just if we was I don't know yeah ain't no no good it ain't working and I feel like sometimes we want people and we don't know why mhm like you go like want somebody not even for them but because of something like you were saying like you wanted someone or like we can want people for what they they feel a certain void or like they are are acting upon something that like maybe like you are not doing for yourself yeah um yeah I don't know I feel like you can't trust desire all the time for real I'd be like what is desire really like cuz lately I'm like what do I desire you know like it's not all physical but it's like to get to know somebody I I I prom I think that I'm going to meet somebody in the most random way because coming at somebody cuz I'm physically attracted to them it just don't be hdden all the time you know what I'm saying like I really prefer to just all of a sudden be like oh I like it yeah like yeah like like that you know that's better like I hate the whole like I want to be phys and I got to be physically attracted to you too to also have that moment you know I'm saying don't give yeah but I may not have looked at you like that you know what I'm saying like but yeah I don't know it's just one of those aha moments I think are the best moments when I when it comes to Falling in Love cuz just reaching out to a woman cuz she's attractive I don't know that's not really that's not my thing that's why all the the stuff on the apps gets weird cuz that's all you got to go off of man I was on the apps a couple months ago which one don't say it we don't give them fre anyway you right girl I got off soon as somebody said um somebody got on there hey hady I said I'm out I'm out I'm out that's a turn off it is cuz what are you doing what are you talking about right now come on hey hadie I I immediately disabled my page I don't like that I don't like that you see my real name you see I'm not hat on here do you prefer to date someone who's like in the industry versus like not that's what I've been trying to figure out lately too because you really got to meet somebody that has a lot of confidence and self assurity you know what I'm say so they don't compare you know um and stuff like that you know I'm sure that can be a little tough to do like if your career is doing something in their career like you got to just be like I would really love to have a situation where we're just two winning ass [ __ ] supporting each other back and forth I go to your event you go to mine I go to yours you go to mine but it would also be nice to have maybe like a doctor you know or stable nice stable you know like somebody that you know pediatrician you know somebody that's very intelligent but also nurturing and kind perhaps you know um somebody so dedicated to their career that ain't no way they going to want to be an actress you know like that you know but uh who knows these days um I don't I don't think I would it it doesn't bother me to date other people in the industry in whatever capacities cuz I'm always like if you're my partner I'm supporting you like we doing self tapes together we do it you know but um that's what supposed to be you just never know you just never know like what the what the I don't know I I have no clue what I'll do next I'm really just going with the flow on yeah like I'm like it seems like that would be the most l IAL thing to do and from the actresses and actors that come before me I can see that a lot of them have chosen other people like they might date a a musician or another actor or a person that's in sports but it's usually somebody that is in the same sphere of some sort yeah or like you know or in in a public figure of some sort you know um so we'll see yeah you know so you trying to find your flow cuz you have acting you got stand and writing too right yeah so like how do you decide or do you decide does it is it just kind of like come out of you like what what part of your multi-hyphenate creative Journey that you're going to like press forward with you know cuz you be booked too acting is number one always and I'm ready to get back to that you know and it's just been the strike and I think it's because of the election too like things have just been slow rolling a little bit but um that's why you just re reuge like I love that I have stand up comedy as an option because that's a great outlet for me to be able to get in front of people and get some energy put back into me you know that exchange of energy um writing all also seems like the most lucrative approach next you know in terms of like when I say lucrative I mean in terms of like overall getting getting what I want out of this industry like other than Lena W you know there aren't a ton of people writing characters that people think I fit within you know and but I've proven that I can do all different types of characters from the past projects I've done so hopefully that's not even a thing anymore but um but yeah just uh I wake up each day and I'm always trying to learn like I I think that's another reason why I've kind of decided that I'm going to chill on dating and stuff like that right now it's just because I kind of I created like a curriculum for myself like right now I'm learning so much I bought a lot books I've been reading books I'm watching YouTube videos learning how to do stuff and it's like it's just 24 hours in a day yeah you know like how do I have the capacity to consider somebody else in this moment and still reach my goals because I'm like you my patience is short so it's also like okay I got to get all this knowledge and information in my head so I can get started doing what I want to do or I got to write this script so then I can go out and pitch it or whatever the case may be but that needs time yeah and if I'm like I realiz I was telling my friend other day I was like I don't watch TV when I'm not dating somebody like when I'm dating same I'm so much more likely to sit down and watch a series cuddle yes let's hang let's just chill together let's just get the thick blanket I don't even sit on my couch anymore what is that about cuz same I don't even I Haven sat on my couch for real for real in a long time and wild I it's that it's that quality time which is amazing it feels amazing and as an actor I need to be watching TV that's another form of study you know however sometimes I get in my head and I'm like I'm watching y'all do what I want to do you know like I'm kind of like I need to go right I need to what are you doing right now it's like imagine you you played basketball your whole life and now you got to watch the NBA and you just like look at these [ __ ] just shooting bask I wish I could still do you know like it's lowkey like that like so yeah I'm at my desk all day now I walk my dog sit in my desk and I go out I walk my dog and then I'm back in my desk and I bought a bunch of books I've been learning about the stock market I've been trying to get more into politics it's so much stuff going on right now yeah so many things changing and I'm just like what got me prepared to handle this strike right now is because a few years ago when I was having all those projects I was like I got to figure out what to do with this money I was in a relationship so I was in a space of comfortability where I wasn't out there look you know like so I could just kind of like go within and we were long distance she lived in New York at the time so I really had time to just you know focus on me and stuff like that and so I thank God that I I I'll be like thank you [ __ ] to that [ __ ] three years ago who you know put some money away and did this and did that cuz she is saving you right now you know so now I'm back in that mode and I just I don't have the capacity to start new with somebody and be like considering you to the you know like cuz I also I would hate to meet the person that's amazing and I don't do it right the first time yeah and like how we were talking about women we don't give each other a second chance like low key like the first time you had sex this better be the best sex you ever had cuz I Star Sticker yes now the second time could be a little shaky but that first time I need to have a I need to have a standard you know what I'm saying and that's just at least at least in the first time time need to be great that's a lot of pressure that's what it's about you're wild for that no no the first time needs to be great cuz yeah it just does it's the first impression and so that's why I just don't I've taken myself out of the gay cuz I'm like I'mma [ __ ] up a first pression and I don't want to do that so and I think I've done it already once or twice bad but it's okay and I've wed I've reckon with it you know and it's like but I don't want to happen no more yeah you know cuz I'm like I might run across somebody and I'm like wow but I'm still not out of my cycle of needing to figure a lot of stuff in my personal life out so you know I'm just being patient with it I think that I'm not fortunate no I never have for but I did have a a little moment where I was like let me go on dates and cuz I feel like okay there's like two things that I realize one my philosophy on life really is everything is ordained for My Success so anything that I don't get any rejection that I receive it's just moving some [ __ ] out the way for something B thank you that is harder in practice than it is to believe it I believe it yeah but then when I get rejected I'm like what the [ __ ] is going on um so like that is what's been making like dating interesting of just like what you mean you don't like me yeah that's not to like do you create scenarios in your mind like do you jump to what it could be you know like you're a future yeah like look at your potential look at mine I have our whole story mapped out yeah me too it's limerance yeah I just discovered that there is you on Spotify you Apple music girl no I'll be on title title but Jay-Z they don't even own it no more so just got get out of there cuz Spotify has this thing where if you type in like liance Lance playlist or whatever it'll make a playlist of all of the songs that just like get you in that romantic get you in your feel space yeah and I [ __ ] up one day and I said let me just let me just go on down to Spotify typed it in was on the bed headphones like staring at the ceiling fan just s like sh why would you do that I've been in I've been trying to like feel my emotions lately you wanted it kind of wanted it normally I find emotions burdensome and annoying you wanted what was the feeling you were feeling I just wanted to not fight it for once you were sad I wasn't sad I was just like feeling a lot I was like okay this is a new feeling this is a new energy um I'm not fully used to it I'm used to being in control of things and I'm also used to being the person that has the upper hand in situations and so you're used to caring less yeah yeah yeah yeah um so that was going on but all of this [ __ ] is is really eye openening because I discovered that when I'm in a relationship I might be too in it and not making enough room for like me to have my own goals my own sights because I noticed how I'm more inspired I find inspiration in more places and I think like I'm just I don't know I don't know what it is about being sing you more inspired and then what cuz I think it's just like I wake up and I romanticize my life ah you know when you're in a relationship when I'm sing when you're single okay okay yeah so it's like I could in a relationship you know I have I have my routine I get up I get us coffee I do this we you go do your things I go do my things we come together at the end of the night on the couch and you know whatever but now it's like I wake up and I was like well it could be whatever I want to do today and the beauty I don't find it in a person I don't turn to my left and see a person there um so I got to go find it somewhere else yeah um I'm not learning about myself by a person just asking them questions so I go and exist within like another context that I can like learn about myself yeah and so it was like kind of a sad truth to come to of like wow like I I think I neglect myself a lot in relationships cuz you're trying to figure out how you can best serve them or be or us or y'all as a unit yeah yeah yeah I mean I guess that's a natural way to go but you're right that's great that you recognize that because cuz when you are in a relationship that does seem to be the point right like we we coming together as a unit it's a partnership you know it's no different than if you had a it's different than if you had a business partner because you can't separate the business from the you know the emotional part but yeah like I can't yeah you know when you're in a relationship you do want to consider us because they're a representation of you and not just a representation but you chose this representation it ain't like your showing out they be like you ain't choose your kid you know like they an individual but you chose your partner and don't embarrass me don't embarrass me please like so yeah you know it's like it it matters it matters especially if you it's like why are we doing this if we're not what do you think about like being together for life you know like I'm just like I don't know I was think realistic well I was thinking the other day about my grand fathers like my papa and my granddaddy and how I was like they really didn't talk much and I jokingly thought to myself I wonder is that because after a while with women you don't know what to say like they really didn't say but they don't say much like but if they spoke you listen you know what I'm saying but I've been in situ not no shade to my grandmother's you know but um I've been in situations or been in dating someone where I didn't know I could spend an hour praising this person and maybe at the 32 minute Mark I gave a little critique and we finished and they go back to that one little thing I said and I'm like so that's all you heard you know what I'm saying so now I don't know what to say to you you know because that wasn't even really the worst of what I could have brought up you know what I'm saying like and so it's like who wants to walk on a shelves you know um with somebody like that's training yeah you know I feel like as a society we need to we need to learn how to deal with negativ not deal with negativity but criticism accept it what you me all forms yes I think all forms because when I did my episode with Lena she was talking about how like she purposely well I'm talking about words in her mouth but she was talking about how like she'll present things to an audience and it's not really supposed to make you feel good it's just supposed to be there and you can think about it um you can develop your own feelings on it and there may be people who don't like it there may people who find it to be like just a negative experience and you just have to accept that yeah you know and so I think um and even when I went to Bali I bring this up all the time I feel like such a like I feel corny when I say that like when I went to Bali but like when I want to Bali their whole thing is balance of like yes like receive good Joy all that but also receive bad so that you don't pedestal these Great Moments and think that that's all your life should be but also you learn how to flow even with the bad [ __ ] yeah cuz it's just a part of life you know yeah I think no matter who you are like it's inevitable to go through some form of blow you know like some people more than others you know conent upon your circumstance but like yeah you got to learn how to deal with the lows cuz that's that's literal like Newton's law right like what goes out but you know like what goes out comes down yeah you know it's like it has to so so I don't know I guess it's just like how you respond to it you have that's the only thing you can control is how you respond like that's the only thing that you I don't know can manipulate but you're a performer so how do you like like what is your process for showing up whether it be stand up and you're literally having to like make a room for the stranger's l or you're showing up on set and you're someone else like what is your process when you're personally JoJo's going through [ __ ] but I need to show up and put a smile on these people's face or I need to show up and do my job well you know recently I'm really happy when I'm when I'm acting like I don't [ __ ] ain't really much day you know like do what I'm love I'm making money you know like it's all good but stand up I'm doing that for free most of the time so like which money ain't the only motivator it's also maybe the crowd is not that great you know what I'm saying like it could be a lot of factors I really do stand up for the exchange of energy it's like playing tennis with for me like with the crowd like I I I I love you know hearing them laugh you know but um yeah recently I was the last few months I was kind of sad and I was telling you earlier about like some just you know romantic drama you know type of stuff and um I really just had to compartmentalize because like when I shot my comedy special I was still in a you know kind of shaky about that you know and um I was just like yeah you got to get it together you know like it is what it is and you got to let that go you know even if it's for a short period of time you know like you got to have um discipline to to not allow it to affect you because it was starting to affect my comedy I started telling like they were funny jokes but they were like kind of more dark not dark but just just me talking [ __ ] you know what I'm saying like [Laughter] podcast basically like I told a joke one time about um I was like you know these lesbians don't appreciate me like it's a lot of y'all girls in my DMs and I don't be you know I I don't I don't bite you know like if y'all knew y'all you know it was funnier but the joke was around like I don't get the thanks that I should get for you know not disrupting situations you know what I'm saying and stuff like that I was like that's some [ __ ] boy [ __ ] to say like why are you in this energy right now why are you talking [ __ ] you know what I'm saying cuz I was kind of in some like I was just feeling negative about stuff and lowkey if a chick like was in my DS and she was also talking to other people I'll be like what you doing you know what I'm saying like what like not that but just like I just don't you know I just I just I I I I don't want to do you don't want to be the example of the person that you don't want to be with I don't I be looking out for folks that don't even know I'd be looking out for them you know what I'm saying I wouldn't want to do nothing to nobody that I wouldn't want done to me you know what I'm saying but it's been times where I could have been shyy you know what I'm saying but like I'm like no you know what I'm saying like that that this person I don't even know but I know that that would hurt them if that you know what I'm saying like yeah so yeah it was just a joke I was like I'm kind of like um Denzel and the preacher's wife I was like I could [ __ ] your [ __ ] but I choose not to [ __ ] you know like yeah that was a dark place I you know cuz I didn't mean that [ __ ] like I don't I I don't even want to [ __ ] with nobody that's in no relationship or you know and that's the point I was making but also it kind of I could see some people in the crowd wondering like you know it just may put people in their head about an insecurity about anything you know like if I wonder if my girl talking to somebody or you know what I'm saying like I just like to stay on the positive end of life rather than thinking everybody's shitty and you know what's interesting though I've been reading this book called The Artist way I feel like bunch of lesbians prob yeah okay so you read it yeah I read it and I don't know I've been doing my morning Pages doing the homework and something that I've been thinking about lately because I've been so like in my emotions is is making things from a place of like making things from a temporary space mhm and being okay with it so usually when I make content I try I'm I make it when I'm in a good mood when I feel like filming so that when people are watching it they can enjoy themselves like they not like damn bit right like you know um but lately I was I've been thinking I was like well what what would that mean like would that expand you know my my like offerings you know as an artist or like expand on what my vision is if I was okay with making something that wasn't positive or like what would what would that even look like what would that even mean um like there was this period where similar to you where I was just like confused I didn't know what the [ __ ] was going on I didn't fully agree with everything that I was doing but you know they always say that you know your best [ __ ] comes from when you are really deep yeah in something it could be deep in anything like when you're just deep in something and that's always been something that I've ran away from and so like lately I've been thinking about like what if I made something sad yeah and just like reflected how I felt to an audience and and just I was okay with that and if people think that that's if that's if no one knows who I am and that's the only thing that they see from me and that's who they think I am I mean it's completely wrong yeah cuz that's where I was at yeah no all human emotions are valid and I think from it for me it was just like comedy comedy screen I want to laugh but I also know that there's like a you know Gerard carmichel he's more of like a you know just sometimes I feel like I'm in his therapy session you know and U and I'd be like I want a haha you know um but some people love that style of Comedy I love his style of Comedy too but if I go to a comedy show I'm like I grew up on Comic View you know like I wanna I want my stomach to hurt from laughter you know and so that's the space but I may write something sad I'm not saying that I'm always like I can only put out positive stuff right it's the time and the place like you know what I'm saying like what are the what is the consumer coming to receive in this moment you know like cuz my writing style is all over the place so I can write drama comedy you know like scary stuff like whatever but like um yeah I don't know I guess because it's a comedy show I just had this thing of like people should be happy but in terms coming to your platform I think that you can have a vast array of emotions that you express because you're coming from a human perspective you know what I'm saying and humans feel everything and all these feelings are valid and relatable you yeah yeah so what's been like the most emotionally or mentally challenging role that You' had emotionally or mentally challenging uh that's an interesting question maybe Haddie maybe or the character Evelyn on dog man um I really had to you know she was kind of like a you know divorce a single mom going through it you know so that's just not me at all you know so that felt the furthest away from me um but uh yeah 20s was a the only TV show I've ever done so having to show up for two months knowing the whole day like I was back in college basically like studying every night you know studying my lines every night and so that I guess was the most one I had to give but I loved it like I so it's weird cuz it's just like if you enjoy what you're doing it don't feel like work you know what I'm saying cuz yeah I'm I'm I'm doing a a 12-h hour day on set and then I got to go home and still go over my lines but I don't mind it you know whereas probably would if it was anything else um so yeah actually I enjoy it but that was probably the most challenging thing I was just telling Lena the other day cuz um you know Lena didn't play about them lines and um the scene that has gotten really popular me and Shiloh Shaner uh talking about uh dating certain types of women when I got to set I had been given the wrong sides so I thought we were shooting a completely scene and so I had to learn those that's the only scene that whole season wow that I showed up and did not know the lines I literally told Justin D I was like I need a I need 10 minutes because I don't know what the lines are and he was like okay and it's crazy cuz Shiloh knew every she came prepared you know like knowing everything I was like man this some bll who came be these damn siid but I learned them and then people love the scene and I'm like that thing has circled around it has like and I'm like that is the most least prepared scene I had in the whole show and I don't know it's the most popular one seems like so I don't know everything happens for a reason maybe if I over studied it wouldn't have came out as I don't know who knows but yeah true um I I usually like to be in the know about what's going on before I ride the set so yeah do you I feel like you kind of answer this in the last time we filmed but refresh my memory um do you need to be able to see yourself in the in the characters at all or do you prefer not to H I just like to be able to make the words mine to the best of my ability some things I can I just can't even sound right saying it you know but um I I don't say I have to see myself in the character because I can see myself in a lot of different capacities you know like I think I will work like I I was saying like I think I could be okay any generation you know what I'm saying like I could have you know I mean it would have been hard to be gay in you know the 20s or whatever but that but um but yeah no I um I just see it as like I'm melting into this person you know I'm a observant type of person and I like to just watch people and I pick up on Nuance little things that they do and emotions that they show and stuff like that and then and you know hopefully the character is written well enough that you can be like I kind of know somebody like you you know I'm saying I can kind of relate to what this character is going through you know and it's just do it like that did you study acting no I I watched a lot of TV I'm okay I'm so interested in this I'm so interested in this because well I've taken an acting class okay yeah okay yeah because I've seen different paths to this and I think they're all if you book you're legit in my book but was there like feelings of impostor syndrome or anything like that when you started to get into acting you were just like no I belong here this is what I do yeah no I never felt like an impostor or anything like that cuz I just felt like I could bring something to the table and it's I mean it's not like if I tried to be a surgeon I'm an impostor you know like it ain't that crazy of a thing to do you know it's like if you can do it natural and um remember your lives you know and and keep yourself calm acting is not rocket science you know it's not like anything it's just about having the um the courage I think to say that that's what you want to do that that made me feel like I had to be um Courageous about saying it out loud because a lot of times when I was younger I would say it and maybe get a reaction of like okay you know and it's like you start to protect it a little bit by not saying it but then I started be like no that's what I want to do so yes yeah I want to be an actress and you did that and I did it and doing it hopefully be back to doing it soon I'm proud of you friend thank you f as I was like prepping for your episode I had to like go through your IMDb and just like see stuff that you had worked on and I was like there's a lot on here God is good like all the time all the time I um one of my friends just sent me my best friend and I that I she we drove out here together when I moved out here um her movie was number one and a that she worked on Planet of the Apes and then my number was my movie was number two Civil War that I was in on Amazon purchases and so he sent us a picture of that and it was like damn that's a trip like look at us look at these films that we worked on and I don't know I have this dream in my head of we have a picture where we stopped at the Grand Canyon and took a picture and I just want to go back with like our Oscars one day and take a picture and be like look what we did don't know why here like that's going to happen it's going to happen that's going to happen yeah we got to get back to work you got any like this is just you know the sensitive part of me once I ask this question you ever like watch yourself on TV or or or in a movie in the films and just be like that's crazy like that's me I am in this thing that is all over the us all over the world and people can just see me and like I mean you got to ask yourself the same thing like honestly you probably get recognize more than me like like that is giving so many people so much more power to have accessibility you know like you can share your talents and share your gifts and so many other ways and you have more control over your your expansion than I do you know so I'm just waiting in little squirrel looking for a nut you know like please um but no it does what I can't wait to happen is I was in a movie on a plane but it was I didn't even talk it was um um good this anyway we'll come back to it okay um I want to play I want to that I think that's when I'll have a little moment you know now I have had those moments of course but I just trusted in God like because when I decided to pursue this goal I knew I had to make it happen because you just put I don't know after I went to college you know a lot of my friends started just being super successful in their in their life and it's like if I'm putting this off then it's got to be for a reason you know if I'm not you know cuz I could have easily probably got a corporate job and you know did that so it's like if you're not going to take that route then baby girl n it work yeah make something Shake yeah and everything not in your control but I do think that what is in your control is a mindset and trusting in yourself trusting in God I believe in having a higher power that's how I feel like I've gotten here I don't think mentally I would have sustained without believing in something higher than myself um because how do you believe that you're going to make something happen that you know you know how you know I had no clue yeah that 20s would come along at the same time I'm raising money and Lena would give me an opportunity to audition but I knew God was going to send away yeah know so you just got to believe in away I believe that yeah all right we got 12 minutes left it's my favorite so last time I don't think I'm going to use it but last time we had voicemails or we answered a voicemail oh yes okay and so I was going to do we're just going to do it again okay just another one okay cool all right so now is the part of the show where we listen to a voicemail so y'all can call into the show number will be on screen I don't remember I should by now but the number will be on the screen y'all can call into the show you can ask for advice you can ask about your dirty ass roommate or your ain't [ __ ] daddy like whatever the case is is like uh and we will give you our best on the show and today I you didn't say a name but I'm just GNA play it here um hi Jade and guest um so I'm moving out of like a weird roommate situation and she's my best friend we love each other dearly um but she nasty so I got to move out um but I'm trying to take like some of my furniture that we kind of got together um how do I go about this because I um hate confrontation and uh I'm sensitive so help oh girl I hate confrontation and I'm SED but I want to take half of some I want to take furniture that we split exactly if you don't get what's yours I love confrontation no no no no hold up she said that they both paid for furniture together you going to have a conversation and she want to take it oh well you also said that she was nasty so do you want it that's that's another thing I'm my thing okay I separated from an ex a few years ago and we bought a lot of stuff together and basically I just bought her out of her stuff yeah you know and I just you know we adjusted the price for usage you know what I'm saying but like it was like okay this cost this much this cost this much I'll pay you your part of that and that's how we just kept it simple like that yeah because it both of y'all paid for it you can't just be like I'mma take this I had a I had an ex one she took my my um my uh what is it called the big old bag it's like a chair but it's a bag bean bag bean bag she took my bean bag let you know everything around it but the beans I was so upset wait were you not home well it's just hard to transport and so I left it there like temporarily and then I was trying to go get it back and she was like No And at the time you know I was lowkey scared of her so um I never got it back but I think the buyout idea is a good idea it's the only way to go to make sure that nobody is talking [ __ ] or saying that you know they yeah like we had a TV I didn't feel like taking that TV off the wall I am not about to go get somebody to rehang this TV exactly look it up how much we pay for this yeah I'm going to send you you know your half for that mhm yeah it was like I even had to send my hat for the what's it called when you move in the deposit mhm boy that was a lot wait what's your what's your advice for for dealing with confrontation like do you think that she should like just C go to the roommate talk to her instead of text like what I just think you know it depends on the roommate she in there whispering and stuff like she she girl or something yes help right you sure this not a captor you think it's a roommate are you sure this is not someone who kidnapped you um yeah I would say as long as she's not like going to be physically you know attacking her anything y'all should be able to have a conversation I just feel like anything should be able to be discussed as long as it's respectful you know that means don't be yelling or you know and maybe not cursing either maybe we don't need to curse in this conversation even if it is a casual curse because it may be taken out of context you know so we're just going to have a conversation about it and see what's said yeah and you got to watch your tone inflation of your voice it's a it's a it's a Mastery to being able to have but it's got to be two people trying to do it together you know yeah don't call her dirty yeah don't don't call her dirty you call her nasty too nasty is different than dirty nasty might which one word nasty is what dirty is I see how you think that I had a I had a roommate in college once this is oh my God this is gross I had a remain in college once I almost fight fought this girl um she would change her pads no in the room and then just put them in like the general trash can Wait Wait y'all would y'all share the room yes she would just leave the essence of C yes and like no you know how you like wrap it in a like toilet paper or something like oh let me hide like she wouldn't even do that just like with the regular little tiny little piece of tape that like girl I can see the blood in there like ew and putting it in a little trash can in the room that's disgusting and then she had this big old Jesus poster which you know it's fine it was just like well you know I love the little you got to like ask somebody though you it was big okay it was big like it was like the statement lie I'm going to do what I want to do on my side and I remember she would snore and stuff and I would throw stuff at her at night dang y'all y'all live together for what one year we Liv together for maybe three weeks ah I had to high tell it out of there but once again I love confrontation I don't love conversation I'm just good at it so I think this is the thing a lot of people don't like confrontation a lot of people get nervous about it so if you actually come to her and say hey this is what I want to do you kind of have like Leverage in that you know so like come to her with the specific things that you want specific things that you're asking for make it very clear and it could just be a yes or or no or it could just be a okay we're going to do this or we're going to do that and just keep it as simple as that yeah I don't her Whispering though got me worried about it you know it just got me thinking he getting be beat or something I don't know beat on but I don't know about that taking stuff that y'all split like say y'all both paid for the pots and pant okay well she got to keep something I'mma take the pots and pans you can keep the vacuum oh like a swap yeah that's a good idea I mean come on now people just expect to take stuff taking I mean yeah that's one of your homies what them you don't know them no that oh okay no I don't know okay okay okay okay the way she was whispering was like if that was one of my homies like girl we're escaping for real got at dawn you got to get up out of there you gota get I think that was back in May too so who knows I wonder how she's doing today I hope that she's with us I only had I had a roommate my first year in two years in LA and she she was great cuz she just went to her room she had a boyfriend he pretty much stayed with us I liked him better I liked him more than like her pretty much but I let it slide because they literally would warm some food up in the microwave and go to her room and be in there oh never saw them they until they left the next day perfect they yeah it was like okay long as I ain't got to C him I guess mhm I guess yeah but anytime I wanted to talk a little [ __ ] I would good she would just jump on it uh Melissa can you come in here and um this kitchen oh yeah like yeah before I kick your [ __ ] out wrap it up cuz both of y'all cutting up like what what's happening low key he should be paying rent really want to get down to it for real I I I thought about doing that but we had separate um leases technically so yeah yeah I don't think I can a roommate not at this point in my life I pray to God never yeah um it wouldn't be sometimes I'm like even living with somebody I saw recently Sarah pawson and her partner don't even live together they got separate homes that's I know that's right that's a bit much I see I understand I [ __ ] with Sarah I love Sarah pawson incredible actress um but yeah I was like we can have separate rooms and then it could be fun like you want to come stay in my room tonight I'm going come stay in your room tonight that Tes some real trust though you know but I mean at the end of the day people going to do what they want to do regardless you could literally be sleeping cuddled up with them every night so you know but yeah my great-grandparents slept in different rooms and um yeah now I see why sometimes you just need a little space yeah I didn't even know that I have a home girl who does that she's married and I didn't even know that that was an option I never considered it until yeah I don't know I just thought maybe when I get old old you know but yeah just and by like it depends on the next type of woman I date next because like if they are messy or I just like I like I just like to live a certain type of way like I feel it I just leave I just need to have my stuff for c i I need to close your door and be to be like I don't I don't see this I don't I can't do snoring girl it's like I have never dated a woman that snor than God but I went on a vacation with my home girl and she is a locomotive I said I recorded her cuz I was like girl you need to go to the doctor clear it out you need to go see somebody this ain't okay she I only do that when I'm real sleepy well every night [ __ ] they always say that you been real tired You' been exhausted had a long day didn't you woke up at 2 you woke up we on vacation why you so tired you here damn keeping me up I was L here laying staring at the steing like how I be here all you doing is bre breathing how you breathing wrong I'm right when you get a man you just expect him to just deal with this huh it's just going to be both of them you need to go get that anyway shout out to the homie yeah yeah all right y'all that's JoJo GBS it's J fox boom let us know how y'all feel about the podcast Studio it's cute y'all like the vibe let me know give me give me little comment C feedback the bees and the bees love it all right enjoy thank you J thank you guys wasn't that just like watching two cousins just two cousins shooting the [ __ ] on the porch why on the porch I didn't have to add that part I don't know just cuz I just seems like a common place for us to cousins to hang out anyway I hope that y'all enjoyed the episode uh definitely follow JoJo her information will be down below she got movies and all types of stuff coming out okay this is definitely one to watch I'm a big fan and I think that you if 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